Post # 1
Hi bees! Just wanted to let you know I’m celebrating 1 month clean today – no drooling over slick bridal blogs, no scrolling through wedding dress sites, no checking out wedding ring sites. It started innocently enough. I was convinced my BF would propose over summer (because he TOLD me he would propose over the summer…), and thought I’d do a little pre-emptive snooping around wedding sites, just to start collecting ideas for when the time came. This progressed into needing my morning fix of Style Me Pretty and quickly devolved into checking back every 15 minutes to see if a new wedding had been posted. If not, I would tide myself over by flipping through bridesmaid dress sites, looking at wedding photographer pages, etc. But when I had a computer file full of pictures, idea lists, and favorite pages by the end of the summer, and still no ring on my finger, I realized the craziness had to stop.
A month ago I quit cold turkey – restricting myself to the WB waiting boards and cutting off all other wedding site gawking. It hasn’t been easy, and I’ve gone through some shaky lace and bouquet withdrawal symptoms, but it’s actually been several weeks now since I’ve had a “why hasn’t he proposed yet” crying jag, so I think I’m making progress!
Has anyone else had to cut themselves off from wedding sites while in waiting stages 2-4? What steps have you had to take to make the waiting a little less agonizing?
Post # 3
I almost had to stop myself from coming to the Bee, but it really helps to be able to vent. Sadly, i have not been able to cut myself away from all the sites, but I also don’t look at that many too often. I have thought of going cold turkey, though, thinking that maybe it would make the anxiety of waiting go away a little.
Post # 4
Actually the bee is all I come to now. For some reason I just kinda stopped looking.. I guess i just got tired of the anxiety it created because I didn’t have a ring yet. I am so thankful that I stopped looking though. About a week ago however, I had a little mental breakdown to myself because it was the last day of summer and my bf told me he was going to propose at the end of summer also. But other than that I have been able to control my crazy, obsessive wedding thoughts by abstaining from wedding porn :)!
Post # 5
I’ve cut way back on looking at wedding stuff in the last month or so. It’s hard because I want to look, but I don’t have a ring yet. I check out the waiting board a couple of times a week and I realize there are ladies waiting just like me.
Post # 6
I’m in and out. Nothing constant. One week I may be sooo into looking at the wedding sites, dresses, cakes, etc. Then the next week I’ll be in a crappy mood over “waiting” and won’t want to look at anything. Sometimes it depends. I’m on the Bee DAILY! LOL…
Post # 7
You know what? I looked at wedding stuff more when I was waiting! Once I got engaged I was like oy I really have to plan this now. And the more you try to restrict yourself, the worse it was for me at least. Good luck with the self control 🙂
Post # 8
Yes!!! I had to get wedding sober too. I started the craziness LAST summer. Ugh. Although, I was fairly certain that a ring wasn’t coming for a while. Now I’ve got another probably 4-6 months.
I also am limiting myself to WB boards, primarily waiting, and recently have been getting better at taming my bee addiction through getting into other entertaining sites that you guys helped me find in a thread I posted a few days ago. You should check it out!!
Post # 9
I wish I could!! Some days when I am bored at work the temptation is just too much 🙂
I admire your self control!
Post # 10
Good for you, for both breaking the cycle but more because it sounds like you are happier now! 🙂
Post # 11
@littlemissmango: Haha, yes thank you for that thread! Although now I have a whole new kind of addiction because I cannot stop reading hyperboleandahalf.blogspot.com and laughing inappropriately hard at work!
Glad to hear everyone’s feedback, and know I’m not the only one! I decided to test myself yesterday and clicked on SMP just to see how I’d react. I didn’t really even want to look though because I knew it would just make me sad, so I switched back to WB. I really prefer the catharsis and support of the waiting boards than torturing myself!