Post # 1
I have a close friend who is pregnant after having a miscarriage. I’d love to celebrate the good news and I wonder what would be a nice gesture–flowers, a card, some kind of pregnancy gift? Grateful for your input!
Post # 2
Flowers and a card, an edible arrangement, something like that would be great. I don’t know how far along your friend is, but for me, I would not want any pregnancy related gifts as being pregnant after a MC is a very scary time and I didn’t want anything to do with pregnancy related items until I knew for sure things were progressing well. That’s very sweet of you.
Post # 3
vanessa7: how about a pregnancy basket. It’s both useful and could be funny. For my friend I did- prep h , travel toothbrush and toothpaste for the unexpected vomit, non alcoholic wine, stretch mark cream, “3 free” nail polishes(pregnancy safe)- I used Essie, but opi is safe as well. A sleep mask, pepper mints… And a bottle of whiskey for dad. They LOVED it.
she in return got me a basket filled with pickle stuff- pickle flavored mints, gum, lip gloss and pickle band aids for the clumsy pregnancy. She also got DH a book – “What to expect when your wife’s expanding!” (prepragnancy I lives pickles so that’s why she went that theme)
also do to note- between her and I, I was the MC one. So what your doing is very nice!
Post # 4
vanessa7: How far along is she? I would wait until the time of the baby shower, as she had a previous MC and may want to be cautious. Thats what we did with a friend (who is giving birth right now)!!! She wanted to make sure she was in the clear before celebrating too much. Then it was gifts, cards, flowers… You name it. You can always ask how she is feeling, gauge her reaction to things at the moment & go from there.
Post # 5
She’s only a month along so not very far. Since this is her 3rd baby, I don’t think she is going to have a baby shower, but I’d love to celebrate her good news and this new, tiny life! I will definitely stay away from pregnancy related gifts since I am sure it is still scary post-mc.
Thank you, all!
Post # 6
vanessa7: I agree with Sofetch. She is only one month along. I wouldn’t do anything to celebrate the baby just yet. Wait until the first trimester is up.
Post # 7
vanessa7: I think it is sweet that you want to do something for her now, but I would wait for a big gesture later. I think a sweet note (text, email, snail mail) now just saying–I know it doesn’t take away your earlier pain, but I’m so happy for you now–sending all my thoughts and prayers your direction.
Then, once she gets to her 12-14 week, send her some flowers or cookie arrangement just saying–“thinking of you”.