Post # 1
My fiance and I have been together for 4 years already. We’ve been planning our wedding for 11-11-11, cause I was born in November and I have this deal with 11, and it just happened to be on a Friday cuase i love it.
After a couple ups and downs, we realize we cannot pay the reception by that day and decided to postpone with the venue for next year. I will only have one opportunity to get married on 11-11-11 and was undecisive wheather or not to have a court wedding on “my day” and the reception on 4-1-12 and have a fried re-create the ceremony. Or just wait and do it all together.
Please give me your opinion or ideas.
Post # 3
Well, I had one opinion on the subject, but after reading your situation, I’m not sure now. I have thought before how I would feel about doing this. Like, if we went to the court house so FI could be on my (better) insurance earlier. But then when I try to imagine the ‘real’ wedding after, it just feels fake and pointless. I would know in my heart I was actually already married and really that’s the end goal. I can see having a reception later, but not a whole wedding. Plus, which day do you celebrate?
That being said, I have a few friends who have done this. One bride had never wanted a wedding, so she compromised with her husband to have the minister actually marry them the night before the wedding. This was their special secret for several years.
One couple couldn’t afford a wedding, and they already lived together and stuff, so they eloped (but it was not widely known). Then, they had a whole big wedding the following year on their 1 yr anniversary.
The third couple had a baby and moved in together. He later proposed and they started planning the wedding. Then they found out she was pregnant and decided they couldn’t afford a wedding. So a few months after the 2nd baby was born, they had a low-key reception.
So, really my only advice is, do what makes you and your guy happy. If the number 11 is so important to you, maybe take advantage of it. On the other hand, whatever day you DO choose to get married on will thereafter take on its own special significance for you.
Sorry! I didn’t mean to make this into a whole book! 😛 Good luck with your decision.