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Ceremony and actually saying "I do"

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    So, we are trying to plan our ceremony details, and I realize that I don't actually know if and when we say "I do." I thought the minister said something like.. 

    Bride, do you take Groom to be your wedded husband to live together in marriage Do you promise to love him, comfort him, honor and keep him For better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and health And forsaking all others, be faithful only to him So long as you both shall live? 

    And then we said "I do" and then we ALSO did the repeat after me vows too. I thought the first part was more of a declaration of intent, and then there were vows after that? Or is it redundant? 

    Help! 

     
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    staceyb    may 10, 2008   los angeles

    we did both - pastor said stuff, we said "i will," then there was the repeat after part. i'm not sure why there's both, but there is. you're correct! :)

     
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    LeahB    September 27, 2008   Live in Lancaster, PA. Wedding in White Plains, NY

    My dad has mentioned that in his 3 marriages, he only said "I do" in one of them (the last one). So I suppose there are ceremonies where it's not said, so make sure if you want it said, I guess speak up! :-)

     
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    lotusmoss    May 31, 2008   D.C.

    IndieBride has a great ceremony repository where you can read how others have put their ceremonies together--it really is a matter of personal preference:

    http://kvetch.indiebride.com/index.php?t=msg&goto=721774&rid=5483&S=963e70094a1d627ef6cad63bfb3f2493#msg_721774

    For our self-written ceremony, we have opening words/welcome, charge for the couple, a reading, then the following:

    WEDDING VOWS:

    Officiant: G and C, you may now read the vows that you have written for one another.

    G: TBA at wedding

    C: TBA at wedding

    Officiant: To this you have now come, and you stand here, ready to declare your love and loyalty to each other.  I therefore ask you:

    G, do you take C, to be your lawfully wedded wife, to love and to cherish, from this day forward?

    G: I do.

    Officiant: C, do you take G, to be your lawfully wedded husband, to love and to cherish, from this day forward?

    C: I do.

    Then, we'll do the ring exchange, a blessing, and the pronouncement.  It's a secular ceremony, but religious ones often run in a similar way.  Hope this helps! 

     

     
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    shortcake    October 4, 2008   Vancouver, CANADA

    The "i do" part is called the "consent," the "I take you to be my husband, for richer for poorer, etc" is called the "betrothal."

    The traditional wording you may be thinking of is from the Anglican marriage ceremony (church of england) - we're getting married in an anglican church, so this is why I know this!

    the whole shebang is here:

    http://www.pibweddings.com/angelican.html

     
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    Thanks guys! This was very helpful!

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