- 4 years ago
Hello bees…sorry for the lengthy post but, I need ur help. I know there has been several things posted concerning the topic of becoming legally married before the ceremony…but, I have yet to find anything that addresses the specific problem that I am having. I really need your input and advice!
This is the second marriage for both of us – we already knew that we didn’t want a big church wedding but, still…I wanted a special ceremony that would provide us with beautiful memories for years to come. We have been talking about our desire to have a beach wedding since we began to discuss marriage over two years ago but, now it seems as though the economic feasibility and impracticality of a destination wedding with all of our family has become too much to work through. My fiancee wants to elope but, as I have a 13 year old daughter who very much wants to be at our wedding, this is not really an option for me. The only other alternative we could come up with is to have a small casual ceremony here with all of our family, then have an intimate (but slightly more formal) elopement ceremony for just the two of us at our destination. It’s kind of backwards..but, I REALLY want the beautiful ceremony that I have been dreaming of. There is nowhere in my city that even comes close…especially at an affordable price.
My question is this – should I have the small ceremony here with our family before our “elopement” and let it be the real thing? Or should I have a non-binding ceremony here and save the real thing for my elopement? I could do it in reverse but, I don’t want to lie to anyone and have them believe that they are attending the “real” wedding when in actuality we had eloped the week before. I know this is confusing but, help me out if you can understand. I really need some advice…!