Post # 1
Hey bees, looking for alittle pros/cons advice from you. We opted to have the wedding at FH’s parents house since it will be kind of small – no more than 50 people. FMIL called me last night with a proposal, and I am not sure how to decide. I do believe our guest number will grow as FH wants to add army buddies to it, so I fear we may be busting at the seams. FMIL said that IF we wanted, they would pay to have our wedding at the local VFW. I thought it was a sweet gesture but I told her I would talk to FH about it. She said ok, and so kindly reassured me that whatever I wanted to do was fine with them, BECAUSE THIS WAS MY DAY 🙂 I was happliy suprised!
I honestly dont care where it’s at. I’m the kind of bride that really only cares about my dress and FH being down at the end of the aisle, and thats it! I honestly think the reason they offered this is because FFIL might be a little uncomfortable with so many people in their house. Me and FFIL see eye-to-eye on a lot of things, so I do understand this, and don’t want to impose if this is the case. Both location options – VFW and parents house – were both FMIL/FFIL suggestions and like I said, I don’t really care where it’s at.
Before we make a decision, I just wanted to reach out to all of you and see if anyone had their wedding at their local VFW and what their experience was? Or FIL’s house?
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I attended a reception at a VFW here and it was fun. It was very casual and laid back but we had a great time! There was plenty of space for everyone and where we were there were picnic tables outside and because of the time of year a lot of people who wanted a quick break from the dancing and music went outside to sit for awhile before rejoining the party.
Post # 4
Any one that had their wedding at a VFW or something similiar?
Post # 5
@ShabbyChicBee: I’ve been to events at VFW’s before. It was more about the food and crowd than the scenery which was fine by me.
Post # 6
I think logistically it would be better to have it at a VFW or comparable recreation center- things like parking, restrooms, etc.
Post # 7
I’ve been to events at our VFW and always had a good time. They were definitely more casual than other black tie events, but I think you have a good attitude about your wedding–the place isn’t important so long as you’re married!
Post # 8
My brother and SIL had their reception at an American Legion (very similar to/same idea as a VFH). It was really nice! They were able to customize it and dress it up to their liking. I went with my SIL and her mom and sister the day before the wedding and helped set up the decorations. There was plenty of space to dance, the buffet dinner was simple and had something for everyone, and the alcoholic beverages were very inexpensive compared to other venues.