Post # 1
I’m getting married next winter – my second wedding, his first. We want to have a short, casual ceremony followed by a fun, cocktail party-style reception. Ideally to save time and money, they would be in the same place. We’re thinking of having the guests arrive at the reception, spending about 30 minutes letting everyone mingle (with drinks and light apps being served) and then calling everyone together on the dance floor for the ceremony. (Everyone would stand – have a few chairs in the front for grandparents, etc.) I know this style wouldn’t be for everyone, but I think it might work for us. I’m a little worried though about how to explain it to people, whether it would flow logistically, etc. I think we would like a bridal party, but would just have them stand with us (i.e. no walking down the aisle for anyone, including us).
I’m wondering what people think of this idea – is it too casual/weird? Has anyone been to a wedding like this? Thanks!
Post # 3
@bostongirl2: I think if you have a coordinator type person directing people and the ceremony is very short it’d be fine.
Post # 4
@bostongirl2: I am considering doing something like this as well. We will only have 20 or so people at the wedding total so doing this would be easy to do although since we aren’t have a dance or anything, it’s a matter of finding a venue that will work for both that isn’t way too big. Ideally I would like to do this as a candle ceremony.
Groom and best man are already standing at the front where there a table with a ton of candles already lit. We begin the ceremony, doing whatever readings or talks that we have prepared, pass the rings through the family for blessing them at the same time. When it comes time to have the actual vows, I would like to have my bridesmaid (my daughter) take a candle from the table, light it and give the flame to my father, to light his own candle who passes it to someone else for theirs and they pass it along all the way through the group until it comes back to the bestman (my other daughter) and my Maid/Matron of Honor (best friend). I want to have us exchange vows in the circle of all of their flames – that represent how love is passed from person to person, growing and encompassing our entire family, who will stand by our sides and support us as we begin our new journey together etc.
Maybe I will have the chairs in a semi circle to begin and then ask everyone to join is at the alter before the start of the vows with their candles that way they aren’t standing the whole time things are read or what have you.
Anyway, it’s small, it can be done at any venue that has that bit of extra space and I think it will be an unforgettable moment 🙂
Post # 5
we also are thinking of doing something kinda sorta like this…. i had a thread about it… http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/non-traditional-timeline-anyone
Post # 6
I think this will be completely fine as long as you have someone coralling everyone where they need to be! Maybe some family members/the wedding party? My sister’s wedding was sort of similar to this (it was on a boat though). Everyone arrived and had some apps, then they were all assembled to stand for the ceremony on deck. It worked really well. Go for it!
Post # 7
Thanks everyone for the comments! His Swallow – your ceremony sounds beautiful and very personal!
Post # 8
@bostongirl2: Thanks 🙂 I was thinking that we might do cocktails ahead of time so everyone can mingle. I am not concerned about them seeing me in my dress before I walk down the aisle with my dad. That way, we can ask everyone to sit down for the ceremony when we are ready.
Post # 9
We are planning something similar to this. We are looking to rent one room and essentially split the room in two and have a normal ceremony in one part and the reception in the other. We are also having a wedding with 75 to 100 ppl.So, I love the idea!
Post # 11
I think that it’s fine! It might help to have a schedule (on a board or something) to let guests know this, like:
4-5pm: Cocktail in the lounge
5pm: Ceremony in the atrium, standing room
5:30pm: Dinner in the dining room
Post # 12
Thanks everyone for the suggestions – they are all great! We haven’t booked a venue yet, but I think we’re going to go with this option. If anyone hears of other brides, doing this, let me know!