Post # 1
my FI’s sister is getting married in about a month. Because there will be family there that I don’t know, I want to make a good impression as encouragement for them to make it to our wedding in December. The problem is that I am not going to buy a dress to attend this wedding and I want to be "me".
Usually I wear black to weddings- not for any bad reason, but black always looks good and it never clashes. However, I bought this dress (pictured) from JCrew in orange and the wedding is an excuse to wear it. To make it me though, I want to add pink tights and then bring it back down again with these really cute grey heels.
I’m not worried that it wont look good because most things that look good in my head look good in real life too. And part of me wants her future kids to look back at the pictures of me and say "Aunt Josalyn was cool even back then!" (because I will still be cool in my 40’s)
I’m just wondering if its wedding appropriate.- I dont want to take anything away from her day due to my hot pink tights, but I just dont think it will be a big deal.
What do you think? What if I came to your wedding in that outfit?
Post # 3
I think it’s lovely and wedding appropriate.
That said- I think it might be a little loud to wear for meeting the extended family at the sister’s wedding (especially with the pink tights).
My advice (take it, or leave it) is to wear something more subdued.
Post # 4
I think, since you want to make a good impression, is to not wear the pink tights (sorry!). It’s such a BRIGHT orange that, although I love the idea of pink with it, I’m afraid that some of your family members might think you’re crazy.
You could always give it a trial run, and go out to dinner wearing the dress and the pink tights. If you get a bunch a weird looks, don’t wear the tights.
What about adding a fun scarf or chunky necklace to it to make it more ‘you?’
Post # 5
I would say it would be fine as a more casual guest, but as a future member of the family who will probably be in a lot of group photos, you should probably pair it with a more neutral color since the dress itself is so (gorgeously!) bright.
Post # 6
I love the dress, and I think it would be perfect with gray shoes! To keep it a little more dressy, I’d go with funky, (maybe bright, if it’s more you) jewelry instead of the tights, but either way I think you’ll look both beautiful and appropriate.
Post # 7
i agree with all the ladies above… the dress shape and color are simply adorable!!! however i’d save the tights for an evening of cocktails with friends and add a chunky necklace and bangles for the wedding. textured chocolate heels could work too!
Post # 8
I agree- in this situation, I think that leaving the pink tights at home would be a better idea. Pink & orange together, although super cute, would be very bright and loud. You will probably stick out in all of the pictures, and amongst the crowd. You certainly don’t want anyone to get the idea that you are trying to upstage the bride by wearing something so bright. (Especially since you ARE NOT trying to upstage her in any way.)
I think the dress, by itself with the gray heels would be adorable!
Post # 9
I really like the dress, but keep in mind that you absolutely will stand out — both in photos and in person. For this reason, I don’t wear bright colors to weddings (I just feel uncomfortable standing out so much at someone else’s wedding). But if that’s "you" and you’re okay with giving his family this first impression, then go for it.
Since you probably will be in formal pictures, you could always ask SIL or MIL what they think, too.
Post # 10
I would suggest wearing the dress, but not the tights, and incorporating the pink elsewhere – jewelry or shoes or handbag, etc.
Post # 11
I would suggest toning it down a bit – can you do funky tights that are more neutral? Add some fun jewelry? Bright orange dress + pink tights will make others think you want all the attention, and I think a bit inappropriate at someone else’s wedding – I think the fact that you are asking means you want to be considerate and make the right impression! (being "you" but also being appropriate)
Post # 12
Thanks for the suggestions. I just want to point out that when I ordered the dress I thought it was as bright as it appears in the picture, but it is more of a darker orange, the actual color is called pumpkin so it really isn’t bright at all. Also, the wedding is at night so the color will be even more subdued.
I think I will keep the dress and the shoes and go for a pink bracelet or something instead.
Post # 13
Josalyn- that dress is great! I’m with the "no pink tights" crowd, but having said that, I haven’t seen the two together. Go with your gut instinct, and definitely pursue the pink bracelet.
Post # 14
I like the dress, but am also not a fan of the pink tights…as least for meeting the family.
Go with fun jewelry!
Post # 15
Josalyn- yea i love the dress, but i will also go with the "no pink tights" folks. How about a sexy pair of silver pumps. and the hot pink handbag is a cute idea! Maybe likes these
Post # 16
What if you just flip the idea? Same dress, but gray tights and bright pink pumps? It will be more subdued but still stylish.