(Closed) Ceremony dilemma!!

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@hayleyelizabeth:  can you fit more if you do stand up instead of seated? If it’s only a short ceremony standing only prob wouldn’t be a problem.. Or maybe just a few seats for the older people?

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I don’t have any helpful advice. But I know you cannot make your ceremony first come, first serve. You would have 350 guests arriving at X time, and 130 of them will have to just hang around for an hour twiddling their thumbs while the ceremony takes place. It would be beyond rude to them.

The only options are:

1) Cap your entire guest list at 220.

2) Find a new ceremony (and possibly reception) venue that can hold 350 people.

3) Have a small, intimate, family-only ceremony (which also might go against etiquette, but I don’t know), but the timing might be awkward (you wouldn’t want reception-only guests to have to wait for the ceremony or your pictures to finish).

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would have a smaller guest list, or find a different place on the property to have the ceremony. I guess you could invite some people to the reception only, but that seems a bit sad somehow.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@hayleyelizabeth:  what about having a small family-only reception earlier in the day then having your reception later in the evening?

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Can you do an adults-only wedding? Sometimes that really helps cut the guest list!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

@s2bmrscook:  Good idea. And wait…. if you’ve invited 350, I’m sure no more than 285 will come. I’ve been to quite a few weddings that were standing room only for a 1/2 hour ceremony (no longer than that). It was fine!! It rewards the early birds Wink

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

and WELCOME!!!! 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m having this issue on a much MUCH smaller scale (as I want to invite ~75 people to reception and garden ceremony only holds ~20) and decided to make my ceremony immediate family only and then celebrate with everyone at the reception. Most people don’t go to weddings to see the couple actually get married, they just want to celebrate and have fun. 

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