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There are lots of parts of my wedding I am willing to comprise on, the cermony which is the most important to me isn't one of them. My MIL who I love hasn't said anything to me yet but  I know she isn't happy about Fi and I not having a Mass or getting married in a catholic church. I suggest allowing them to have their feelings, then have your Fi tell them that you have made your choice, and decided how you want your cermony done, and how you want the priest incorporated and its the end of the conversation. If they bring up to you again just repeat what your Fi has said, and if necessary tell them to take it up with him. Good luck and hold your ground!

Usually I am all about it being the brides decision, but when someone else is footing the ENTIRE bill for your wedding I do think their feelings should be taken into account. If it really is as simple as him saying some type of blessing (which will take only a matter of minutes) during the ceremony, then I would do it.

I'm one of those people who think when your parents funding your wedding doesn't mean that they get to call all the shots. I do think when you accept money you have to comprise more and take their feelings into consideration.

However I think something so personal like the cermony shouldn't have input from the parents. If they aren't religious people they are already compromising by allowing the priest to say a blessing. I say pay for the cermony, and let them handle the reception if they are going to hold it over your head.