ceremony distance

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I just had this situation for a wedding I was in this summer. The answer, for me, hinges on whether people will be staying in hotels nearer to the venue or the ceremony site. The town the wedding was in had very few hotel options, and having the reception venue 45 mins away was a pain.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Your guests’ perecption will also be affected by where they live and what their normal daily driving experience is like.

Some people think anything more than 10 minutes is a long drive. People who live in congested cities often have to drive 30-45 minutes to get even half way across the city.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

@marinewife4:  This is a pretty common driving distance from where I was raised in very rural Ohio. 

If your guests’ hotel is far for the reception site, I do recommend speaking with the hotel and seeing if there’s a way to get a van shuttle to pick up your guests for an extra fee, or a party bus/limo rental for a ride home. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would only do it if all transportation was provided. If your hotel is near the reception, then I have to drive 45 minutes to the ceremony, for what, like 20 minutes, then turn around and drive 45 minutes back, and attend the reception.

If the hotel is near the ceremony, I have to drive 45 minutes to the reception, drink, then drive 45 minutes back to the hotel.

If you provide transportation and I can relax and chat with friends while someone else sober drives, I do not care.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m getting married in LA and the hotels I chose for my guests were equidistant from the ceremony site and the recepiton site. My ceremony site and recepiton site are about 30 minutes apart from each other. I’m going to provide directions in my invitations so guests know which roads to avoid since I know LA is super congested. I’m giving my guests about an hour to get from the ceremony site to the reception site. And I guess the ones that get to the reception early will get some light appetizers and drinks (haven’t hashed out the details yet). I know some guests will want to stay behind to take pictures after the ceremony. I’m hoping it works out.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Honestly, for weddings my family have gone to in the past with a similar scenario, unless we are familiar with the area, we will only go to the reception.  It is too my too ask from people, especially people with children (regardless of whether the children are invited).  I think it is fine, if you keep in mind some people won’t be able to attend the ceremony (100% of people will attend a reception over a ceremony).  The ones closest to you will make the drive.  If that bothers you definitely look into providing transportation

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Those that want to come, will. I live in a fairly rural area as well and our ceremony was held at a winery. Our reception hall was about a 35 minute drive from there. I still had a great turn out for both, I don’t know that anyone didn’t come to the ceremony because of the drive. We did have a party bus for the wedding party, and had about an hour/hour and a half in between.

A friend of mine also did this for her wedding, the ceremony and reception hall were about 40 minutes away. I had no complaints.

If I were you, I wouldn’t worry about it! Its your day.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@marinewife4:  If you don’t want real answers, don’t ask the Internet. You already made the decision anyway, so it’s not all that important what I think anyway. But you asked.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2005

I agree with what other people said.

If someone wants to be at the wedding and reception they will be. Where I live in GA 45mins is seriously not a long drive or a big deal at all. I wouldn’t even stress about it! 

Just be prepared that there are people who will not come due to this. But I mean if a 45min drive was too much of an inconveinence do you really want them to come? 

Last summer I went to a wedding that was an hour drive from the house, 40 mins between ceremony and venue and then an hour back to my house. It was not a big deal. A friend of mine (who was also invited) and I went together and we had a really fun time. Talked in the car, went to wedding, and had dinner on the way home (the wedding was a lunch wedding). We had so much fun.

What was nice that you should consider doing is that the Bride and Groom at this wedding we went too made an announcement at the reception that they really appreciated everyone’s time and they understand the drive was kinda long but that they could not thank us enough for doing it. It was just nice that they did recognize that it was a little inconveinent and said thank-you for it. I’m sure your guests will appreciate a “thank-you for the long drive” as well! 

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