Ceremony during dinner???

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Honestly, from my perspective, it makes perfect sense.  I’m Catholic, and our wedding ceremonies are forty five minutes to an hour long.  So many secular wedding ceremonies are crazy short – sometimes, like five minutes long.  If that’s the sort of exchange of vows you have in mind, I think it makes a ton of sense to do it during dinner, or right before but with everyone seated, rather than make it a whole separate entity.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@carysew:  That’s not a bad idea! Maybe you could have a table to yourselves (like a sweetheart’s table) in a place that’s visible to everyone in the room. You could ask someone to demand a speech after hors d’oeuvres, for example, and then exchange vows in front of everyone or have a friend or family member act as your “officiant” and say “you may now kiss the bride” afterwards. Something like that?

Post # 5
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Busy bee

@carysew:  When I saw the title I was confused and didn’t think that would be a good idea. but reading your explanation I totally get it. If that’s what the two of you want, it sounds totally good.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@carysew:  We are doing this since our courthouse can’t fit everyone we want so we are doing it at the restaurant. We have one of the dining areas reserved so it will be private. It has leather booths lining the walls and then a few tables in the center. We plan to just walk in to the middle cleared area and exchange vows. We will do two nice centerpieces on those tables since they will be seen in the photos and we do want it to feel like a defined space.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I don’t see a problem with it.. your guests can view the ceremony which is the reason for having a wedding, and you are offering your guests seats & food.

It might strike a few people as a little strange, but it certainly shouldn’t offend anyone. Who says that people have to sit in rows and watch anyway?

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t see anything wrong with having truly private vows. No audience at all. My husband and I exchanged 12 words solely to each other and that was sweet.

I would caution you about having your guests attention and less silverware clanking. I’d give the guests and waitstaff plenty of time to settle into their seats, order/receive drinks, get their bread and maybe even start on their salad. No matter how full a person may be when they arrive sitting at an empty table begs the questions: when’s dinner? What’s for dinner?

 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@carysew:  I agree with @Duncan:  – as a Catholic, secular ceremonies seem so short, it almost isn’t worth it to set up a whole other set of chairs for a ceremony where the processional is the longest part.  The only thing I would worry about is the ceremony cutting into your time to eat, which is often cut short anyways.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would maybe do just a small one in the front of the room with your guests at their tables. Since you are already legally married just have a friend do it. And you two can walk in together. You can write your own vows so they can be personal and fun. Quick, easy, then walk to your seats together and eat. 🙂

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think that sounds like a great idea.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think this is a great idea if you plan something short and sweet! I definitely agree about waiting a little bit to let everyone get settled in so you’re not dealing with the silverware, chair adjusting, clanking kind of stuff!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I went to a wedding once that did that. We arrived, found our seats, we’re brought beverages and appetizers, and then the B&G came in (together), and they said brief vows to onw another while the “ceremony” was lead by a friend acting an the MC. The couple was already legally married, so this was just a commitment ceremony of sorts. After it was over, we had dinner.

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