Ceremony: how to get the groom down the aisle with the least anxiety!

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Have all the GM and the groom wait in the room at the front and enter without walking down the Aisle. The BMs don’t need to be escorted. Theyncan walk down themselves. 

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

Yes, I’ve seen many weddings where the groom & groomsmen wait up front together (usually hiding in room near the front of the church beforehand). They all come out and then the bridesmaids come down the aisle themselves. I have never seen a groom come down the aisle himself.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 3 months ago by  amberback.
Post # 4
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4819 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

kristen182:  Clonipin! Xanax! Bourbon! Are you having a rehearsal the night before? That might help him see that it’s not so bad and eeeeeeveryone gets nervous.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

kristen182:  Honestly, My FIL escorted my mom because my dad was with me. My husband walked with his mom. Looked really nice. However, I think in your case with your groom being shy, can he walk in the side? I assume you are having an officiant. I would have them come in together. The officiant is probably the best person to keep your groom feeling calm the day of.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

A thought on the escorting his mom.  My DH did this for our wedding, and his dad walked behind them.  It didn’t look odd at all.  🙂

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

As a pp has mentioned, he and the groomsmn can enter through the side door, following the officiant. This was always the tradition in years past and will not look odd at all. That way he will be with his buddies and their joking around will help to keep him relaxed.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

kristen182:  My mum has only one nephew, he’s escorting her down the aisle.  He’s not part of the wedding party, but I let her choose.  Have you asked your mum?  

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I also wanted to chime in with some advice from my friend, who was also a groom afraid he might faint. He made a rule that if he fainted, all the groomsmen were going to pretend to faint as well. Seriously. They practiced this. Turns out he didn’t faint and everything went swimmingly, but it was hysterical to think about…Thud….thud.thud.thud.thud.thud….Hehehe….I still chuckle at the thought.

On a more serious note, as someone who has actually fainted many times in my life, if he gets dizzy when he’s nervous try to make sure he gets plenty to eat and lots of water the day before and the day of the wedding. It helps keep your blood moving as it should. However, if he gets nauseaus – go with easy to digest food!

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

kristen182:  You can still have one of the groomsmen come out from the side room to escort your Mom, then have him rejoin the groom and the other men before they enter the church.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

kristen182:  JenGirl:  Don’t laugh.  My husband fainted, twice.  Oh he paid for it for a while being the butt of jokes and such but it soon became a really funny story.  Trust me, Everyone remembers our wedding!  I think he’d still be down for the count if the little janitor didn’t bring in the smelling salts. 

Post # 14
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4596 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My FI will be like that too. There is a reason we are only having a 40-person wedding and it will (hopefully) be outside. He will more than likely just go to the Gazebo and not walk anyone down the aisle (sidewalk) like his Grandma, which I told him was fine to do.

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