Post # 1
Hi there! I have started planning my ceremony and am at a loss for what to do. we are writing our own vows but want to know how to fill a half hour!! I definitely don’t want to do the sand ceremony or unity candle. I was looking for something more unique. I think we’ll have 2 readings as well (is that too many?) Any suggestions on a place I can find a lovely poem that is non-religious?
Any help would be greatly appreciated!!
Post # 3
is there a particular reason you want the ceremony to be a whole half hour? i dont have any advice, but our ceremony probably wont be more then fifteen minutes, and we are fine with that…
Post # 4
i’m guessing a half hour is what the venue budgeted, time-wise? don’t discount how much time it takes for the whole processional to happen. also, you don’t have to fill the whole time. our ceremony will probably be 15-20 minutes, tops. if you google “wedding poems” you’ll get tons of options to choose from. i’d focus on the things you really want to include in the ceremony rather than trying to fill up time.
Post # 5
We are signing a marriage certificate instead of a sand ceremony/unity candle. Not the Quaker one (where all guests sign), just a certificate that stated our names, the date and location of our wedding with two lnes under it to sign. I am having it framed and matted and hanging it in the house next to a print of the home we are getting married at (it is an old plantation house).
Post # 6
Thanks ladies! The half hour was the allotted time but we could certainly do it in less. I’m not looking to fill time, I would just like to have something else unique other than the vows we read each other. Any other ideas ladies??
Post # 7
We are having a handfasting ceremony. I thought it was a fun idea and something different from what I have seen. Each ribbon means something different to represent your strength in marriage. That is where “tie the knot” came from.
Post # 8
@Havana29 – A few years back a good friend had a handfasting ceremony, it was really cool. I’d never seen something like it, but I liked it!
I was just trying to think of what to do for our ceremony too 🙂 I think that we are just going to have the pastor talk about love and exchange vows. We budgeted 20 minutes for the wedding. That includes the processional. Our pastor/rev is amazing (per reviews and our planner) and I’ve been told that he can do an amazing ceremony on his own.
Post # 9
We are starting off with a greeting and a prayer. Then the Officiant is going to tell “Our Story.” In some order, we are going to exchange traditional vows, our own personal vows and do a handfasting (So not a fan of the unity candle!). Our officiant said that should take about 20 mins.
The handfasting is BEAUTIFUL, and I highly recommend it. But another tradition I read about was the salt covenant. You and your Fiance each take some salt and put it in a vial or jar or whatever, and then the officiant/preacher. etc. says something along the lines of whenever you can separate your salt from your FI’s, then you marriage can be considered over. Obviously, that’s impossible because all salt looks the same. I like the symbolism of that and it’s not something I had ever heard of before.
Hope that helps!!
Post # 10
I have never heard of handfasting. How do you do it? I just read a little bit, cords are just draped over your hands? what do you do with them after?