Ceremony in a church – but we aren't religious?

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
42117 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

katza:  There are churches that are happy to host non- denominational weddings, but not too many that welcome non -religious ceremonies.

Have you asked the church?

Post # 3
7286 posts
Busy Beekeeper

katza:  Personally I find it disrespectful. To most followers of religion the church is more just than a pretty building. It has significance in the religious experience. 

Have you discussed with the outdoor venues what their rainy day backup is?

Post # 4
5773 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think it’s a bit hypocritical to have a wedding in a church if you’re not religious. 

Post # 5
202 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Meh – I don’t see anything wrong with it. You may run into some trouble with what the church will allow, though. Good luck!

Post # 7
2315 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I hope you find the venue you’re looking for.

If you get married in a church then it will always have some religious connotations, so if that isn’t you then I don’t think it’s appropriate to get married in one just because you like the aesthetics.

Post # 8
7286 posts
Busy Beekeeper

katza:  just because their space is just outdoors does not mean they don’t have a rainy day backup plan. They could use marquees or a building. It would not make good business sense to not offer a solution. You should definitely ask them.

Post # 9
166 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

They may require you do pre-marital counselling sessions.

We did this.  I haven’t really been “religious” for a while, it was a bit weird at first when we discussed anything religious or biblical, but we had a great minister who was really cool. Overall I found it really useful. However being from a religious background probably made it a bit easier, and it did get me thinking about my beliefs again which was great.

If you’re willing to be open to the conversation I say go for it.

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