Post # 1
I have found a beautiful venue for our ceremony.. the only thing is that it is a church. Neither one of us, nor our families, are religious and we would not be having a religious ceremony. Would it be weird, or disrespectful, to have our ceremony in this church? It is a very simple interior with not a lot of christian icons or artwork, so it wouldn’t be very prominent in the photos.
Best case scenario, we would have an outdoor ceremony, but I would like to book an indoor option for a plan B in case of rain. The town we are planning on marrying in doesn’t have a lot of indoor ceremony options besides churches. What do you all think?
Post # 2
katza: There are churches that are happy to host non- denominational weddings, but not too many that welcome non -religious ceremonies.
Have you asked the church?
Post # 3
katza: Personally I find it disrespectful. To most followers of religion the church is more just than a pretty building. It has significance in the religious experience.
Have you discussed with the outdoor venues what their rainy day backup is?
Post # 4
I think it’s a bit hypocritical to have a wedding in a church if you’re not religious.
Post # 5
Meh – I don’t see anything wrong with it. You may run into some trouble with what the church will allow, though. Good luck!
Post # 6
Fair enough! I fully understand. Thanks for the advice, the hunt continues for an indoor location. And I can’t really ask the other venues about rainy day backups because they are all just parks and open meadow type places.
Post # 7
I hope you find the venue you’re looking for.
If you get married in a church then it will always have some religious connotations, so if that isn’t you then I don’t think it’s appropriate to get married in one just because you like the aesthetics.
Post # 8
katza: just because their space is just outdoors does not mean they don’t have a rainy day backup plan. They could use marquees or a building. It would not make good business sense to not offer a solution. You should definitely ask them.
Post # 9
They may require you do pre-marital counselling sessions.
We did this. I haven’t really been “religious” for a while, it was a bit weird at first when we discussed anything religious or biblical, but we had a great minister who was really cool. Overall I found it really useful. However being from a religious background probably made it a bit easier, and it did get me thinking about my beliefs again which was great.
If you’re willing to be open to the conversation I say go for it.