Post # 1
I hope it’s not a big baddie to post this here, because I posted it in “ceremony” earlier and I dont’ think there’s as much traffic as I got no responses.
I am the worst procrastinator and am JUST now figuring out the ceremony stuff, even though I’ve been working on it forever.
We just liked too many things and couldn’t narrow it down! Here’s what we are thinking for the order of service. I’m trying to figure out about how long our ceremony would be with the following included:
Procession (short. Only ring bearer and flower girl).
Welcome, some stuff about marriage said by officiant
Rememberance of those passed and not able to be there (short)
Hand blessing / hands ceremony (the “palms up” one)
Handfasting (six cords) which incorporates vows simultaneously
Prayer that FI and I say, relatively short (each of us says one line of it and it’s about 8 lines total)
Ring exchange, standard
Truce bell ceremony
Loving cup wine ceremony
Blessing of some sort by officiant
Kiss, introduce as married
What do y’all think about how long this will be?
Post # 3
Hmm, I don’t know. our ceremony/vows were “long” but took only about 20-25 minutes. I don’t know if you should do quite so many gestures, though. I think just doing one (like the handfasting, or the wine ceremony) makes it more powerful.
Post # 4
With no words to go by, I am thinking between 20 and 30 minutes. My suggestion is to get/make a copy of the wording and do a trial. That is what we have done and with revisions, we will be doing it one more time. I don’t want ours to go over 20 minutes; less if possible.
Post # 5
@SnowPeony: yeah… FI and I are butting heads a little here. We both want the handfasting. She wants the hand blessing too, I’m fine without it. I want the truce bell, she likes it, but she really wants the wine thing too (funny, she hates wine, lol).. so we’re having trouble with what to drop.
@noritake22: We should try that. Maybe it will make it less likely that I’ll cry if I practice first!? 😉
Post # 6
Oh my goodness, I don’t know what any of those things are!!! I better start working on our ceremony stuff too. lol.
Post # 7
@elliegraye: LOL you will learn within 30 minutes of Googling. I didn’t have a clue, then I found WAY TOO MUCh that I liked! Which is why I put off so long on deciding.