Post # 1
My finace and I are spiritual people. We both have huge families and belong to mega chucrhes. The exchnging of our vows is the most important thing for us and would like everyone in attendance. So we are planning a ceremony only that will take place on Sunday morning before our church service or admediatly following our church service. Because we are choosing not to have a reception we are still looking for cute unique way to say thank you everyone for coming. We dont want a reception at all, is it wrong just to have such a big ceremony???
Post # 3
I think it would be polite to offer some sort of food and drink to those that traveled to come see your wedding. Even if it is some water and cookies atfter the service, or prehaps take your family out to lunch to celebrate with you?
Post # 4
I agree with PP, its OK to have the ceremony be the focus, but your guests will want a chance to say congratulations.
Can you use the church basement for an hour for cake and punch?
Post # 5
@Demask: The purpose of the reception is to thank your guests for coming out to support you on such an important day.
It doesn’t have to be a full meal, or fancy, but it is a requirement of etiquette to provide your guests with a snack and something to drink. This can be anything from cake and punch to a 12 course dinner of pheasant under glass prepared by Wolfgang Puck.
Post # 6
People want to celebrate with you. Treat them with soft drinks/punch and cupcakes/cookies after the service as a way to thank them for coming. It doesn’t have to be a big thing, or formal. Many churches do things like this for people’s anniverseries, mother’s day, and some holidays. The church might even have committee that organizes refreshments like that. If so, maybe they could do it or help you do something like that.
Post # 7
I’m with the others – we’re getting married at our church, and as such our ceremony must be open, so there may be additional people there as well as our invited guests. As such, we’ve decided to do tea, coffee and biscuits at the church before moving on to our reception venue, to take those attendees into account.