Post # 1
I’m recently engaged (yay!) although my fiancé and I have been talking about getting married for a few months. At first we both wanted a big wedding, but only because we have a huge family- our guest list would be 100+. We have time to save up for it, but I honestly don’t feel good about spending a huge amount of money on one day. So I was able to convince FI to have a “weddingmoon” where we could spend less money on a dream vacation and get married on a beach in Jamaica, then return and have a backyard party to celebrate with everyone.
Fast forward to our engagement and people are asking if they can go with us. I would love for our closest friends and family to be there, but I don’t want them on our honeymoon! What are the chances they’re going to want to leave after the wedding day? I know it sounds selfish but I don’t think it’s appropriate. So this morning I thought that maybe we could have a ceremony (our moms would love for us to have a church wedding), leave for the honeymoon right after (like hours later), and then have the backyard party when we return. What do you all think?
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2014 - Cadillac mountain
I like the idea! I think if you had a destination wedding (particularly if it’s small) some of the guests will use it as am excuse to vacation & stay there.
We are doing a super small sunrise ceremony, a backyard reception the next day & then leaving at 4:30a the next day for our honeymoon. No one has complained about not being invited to the ceremony & have mostly been really respectful of it’s tiny intimate nature
Post # 3
Yes, that’s what I think! And it would be rude not to see them the whole time.
I want the backyard party to be informal and casual, so I don’t want it the same day as the wedding either. I’m so torn!
Post # 4
If you’re not doing a destination wedding why don’t you just have the private ceremony and backyard reception in the same day and leave for the honeymoon the next day? I’m don’t understnd the need to separate them.
Post # 5
Curlycupcake: If we have a ceremony here, it would be in a church and that would make it formal or semi-formal. I’d like the backyard party to be casual/BBQ-like.
Post # 6
If you have a destination wedding (I did) people won’t leave. They stay as long as you stay so that’s why we are going to Hawaii for honeymoon..
Post # 7
macielilla: But it’s only formal or semi formal if you make it that way. Plenty of people have church weddings and BBQ type receptions. I went to one last year in fact and it was lovely.