Post # 1
My FI and I are doing our ceremony in an unconventional location: on a ski mountain. Our reception is going to be held at the resort lodge in the late afternoon. Is it tacky to have the ceremony be optional? I understand the difficulties of getting everyone up on the mountain and would hate to have some not attend the day because of this fact. Thanks for the input.
Post # 3
in this case, you’re giving them the option, it’s not like you’re saying you’re not allowed to come to the ceremony, so i don’t think there’s a reason for anyone to be offended.
Post # 4
I don’t understand what you mean by “optional”. It already is optional- nobody HAS to attend (other than the bride and groom!) I’d just invite everyone to both things and let them make their own choices.
Post # 5
I wanted to make it optional so that people who did not want to go on the mountain wouldn’t feel badly about just attending the reception. I didnt want people like that to not come at all because they didn’t want to attend the ceremony.
Post # 6
I’ve missed ceremonies when I have to work (like on a Friday evening) and then met up at the reception.
If people have questions about the ease of access to the ceremony spot, they’ll likely ask you first. If you have a wedding website, this is a great place to say “we know we aren’t having our ceremony at a conventional location. If you don’t think you can make it up the mountain, please know you are still welcome at the reception.”
If you don’t have a wedding website, I’d suggest getting a simple one thrown together for this reason.
Post # 7
Thanks for the input! The “still welcome at the reception” will work great.