- 3 years ago
I was raised Muslim and my FI hasn’t been to church since he was very young; we consider ourselves agnostic. To complicate things my parents refuse to attend the wedding if the ceremony is officiated in the Christian tradition. It is hard to explain to them that a ceremony can be solmenized by a pastor in a secular fashion. The FI family expects a traditional ceremony, but they respect his decisions and are mindful.
We are having a small wedding, about 70 guests, at the college campus where we met. The school chaplain, a Brethren pastor, is happy to marry us and keep it non-religious. However, lately I’ve been feeling that it won’t feel special if someone we barely know officiates.
My most recent idea was to either (a) have a friend get ordained, (b) get married at the courthouse beforehand anytime before the wedding and then day-of have the friend officiate the ceremony. FI prefers the later option because he thinks it is easier and I agree.
My sisters would love to do either one of these options for us, but I am hesistant because none of us ever been part of a non-muslim wedding. I am considering asking one of my married friends.
What should I do?