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    CaitlinRivera    August 14, 2010   Seville, Spain

    Hello! My FI is Spanish, and we are getting mraried in NY and going with American traditions. Lastnight my FMIL asked me if we were going to have a rehearsal and how was the ceremony order. We've got my 2 BMs his 2 GMs, my father and his mother and the ring bearer. So how does it go? BM/GM, BM/GM, FI/FMIL, ring bearer and then me? Who stands and who sits? We are having a non-religious ceremony in a garden. THANKS!Cool

     
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    smyley    May 2010  

    We had the GM walk in with the groom and stand in the front with the officiant. MOG/FOG walked in first,then MOB (me) with my Dad, then BM, MOH, then bride & FOB. You can decide the order you like, but in your case (and doing it the way we  did) it would be MOG,BM,BM,RB,you/Dad.

    Lots of ways to do it,but discuss with your officiant at your rehearsal.

     
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    Mrs.KMM    July 17, 2010   Atlanta, GA (wedding in Indianapolis, IN)

    I don't think I've ever seen the Groom as part of the precessional - he is typically already at the front waiting for his Bride.  It normally parents (with groom's parents before MOB), then Bridesmaids (or BM/GM if you don't have them up front with the Groom), then Ring bearers / flower girls, and lastly Bride and her father.

     
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    Gemstone    July 2011   Cincinnati

    @Mrs.KMM: Exactly!

     
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    CaitlinRivera    August 14, 2010   Seville, Spain

    Ohhh I am getting so confused!!!!!!!! I thought that the BM and GM walked together! As in....my sis/his bro, my other sis/his other bro...So the groom is already in the front waiting? Can someone write it out to me without abbreviations please? Thx!

     
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    Mrs.KMM    July 17, 2010   Atlanta, GA (wedding in Indianapolis, IN)

    The way I've seen it the groom and groomsmen are typically up front at the beginning of the ceremony and the groomsmen only leave with a bridesmaid on their arm (although you could have them come in together too if you'd like - I have seen this as well - just not as common).

    Here is the typical prcessional order (without abbreviations):

    1. Grooms parents
    2. Mother of the Bride
    3. Bridesmaids (or bridesmaids with groomsmen if you want them to come in together)
    4. Ring bearer and/or flower girl (I don't think it really matter which of the two of them come first)
    5. Bride and the father of the bride

    With this processional this groom is already waiting at the front.  I've never been to a wedding were the groom was a part of the processional.

     
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    Angela83    June 2011  

    If you aren't doing a religious ceremony I think you can do whatever you want.

    I've seen non-religious and Jewish weddings where the groom walks in the processional.

    But for Christian weddings, I think FutureKMK nailed it.  I've been to Christian weddings where the flower girl and ring bearer walk down together, too.

     
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    Bailzoe    August 2010  

    This is the order we are using, the first two aren't technically the processional, but we do have it written out so everyone knows what order they are going in. The groom obviously can't magically appear in the front without having walked there. ;)

    1. Officiant (Walks and stands up front) - She is a good friend of ours

    2. Groom with his groomsmen behind him file in and stand up front.

    3. Bride's Grandma & Bride's Brother escorting her (she's a widow)

    4. Groom's Parents

    5. Bride's Parents

    6. Bridesmaids solo

    7. Bride

     
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    Mrs.KMM    July 17, 2010   Atlanta, GA (wedding in Indianapolis, IN)

    @Bailzoe: There are doors at the front of our sanctuary that the groom and groomsmen will be entering from as opposed to walking down the aisle (and I guess there always have been at other weddings I've been to - lol).  They'll just file in from the door on the right side and stand up front.  Our officiant will do the same.  No appearing out of thin air here Wink (although that would be pretty awesome - lol)!

    I guess some things like that are just kind of dictated by the space you're working with.

     
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    CaitlinRivera    August 14, 2010   Seville, Spain

    THANKS SO MUCH! NOW I AM A LOT MORE AWARE OF THE "NORM" AND WILL PLAN ACCORDINGLY. you ladies are the best! Cool

     
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    CaitlinRivera    August 14, 2010   Seville, Spain

    THANKS SO MUCH! NOW I AM A LOT MORE AWARE OF THE "NORM" AND WILL PLAN ACCORDINGLY. you ladies are the best! Cool

     
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    Jenn23    April 17, 2010   Philly suburbs

    My hubby, his best man and the officiant walked down the aisle to the front. I loved this...it looks great on the video and in the pro pics seeing them walk single file down the aisle.

    I had never seen this before our wedding either. I thought the men always entered from the side...perhaps it's becoming more popular now...

    Basically, though, you can do what you want. There are so many neat variations..make it how you want it! :)

     
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    Bailzoe    August 2010  

    @Jenn23 My soon-to-be SIL did it at her wedding and it looked great, that is where we got the idea. She had her wedding in a tent and it was POURING outside, so she had little choice, but we thought it looked really nice!

     
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    Jenn23    April 17, 2010   Philly suburbs

    @Bailzoe  I love it too! Of course I wasn't there, so I was so excited to see the wedding video and pics showing my hubby smiling while walking down the aisle with his best man behind him (and officiant following both of them). I loved it!

     
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    CaitlinRivera    August 14, 2010   Seville, Spain

    Well I can use the "norm" as the base from which to build! thx!

     

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