(Closed) Ceremony Readings

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I used an Irish wedding blessing

May you see your children’s children.
May you be poor in misfortune,
Rich in blessings.
May you know nothing but happiness
From this day forward.

May the road rise up to meet you
May the wind be always at your back
May the warm rays of sun fall upon your home
And may the hand of a friend always be near.

May green be the grass you walk on,
May blue be the skies above you,
May pure be the joys that surround you,
May true be the hearts that love you.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

There is a great repository of hundreds of ceremony readings over at Indie Bride in the Kvetch section. I did a lot of browsing there before I decided on our secular reading. Be sure to check it out – I found it to be a very helpful resource.

ETA: We are using Union by Robert Fulghum:

You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes, to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making commitments in an informal way. All of those conversations that were held in a car, or over a meal, or during long walks – all those conversations that began with, “When we’re married”, and continued with “I will” and “you will” and “we will” – all those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” – and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding.

The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things that we’ve promised, and hoped, and dreamed – well, I meant it all, every word.”

Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another – acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, even teacher, for you have learned much from one another these past few years. Shortly you shall say a few words that will take you across a threshold of life, and things between you will never quite be the same.

For after today you shall say to the world –This is my husband. This is my wife.

 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think this is what we will have read as an introduction to our vows

We read in The Art of a Good Marriage by Wilferd Arlan Peterson:
Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.
A good marriage must be created.
In marriage the little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon, it should continue through all the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.
It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.

We are debating having another reading or reading part of the hand fasting ceremony verbage but some other options we have are:

Dr. Seuss ‘oh the places you’ll go’

“Love is a temporary madness; it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of eternal passion. That is just being in love, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Those that truly love have roots that grow towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from their branches, they find that they are one tree and not two.” by Louis de Bernieres from Captain Corelli’s Mandolin

On Friendship, Roy Croft

I love you, not for what you are, but what I am, when I am with you. I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, But what you see in me. I love you for the part of me that you bring out. I love you for putting your hand within my heart and Drawing out into the light all the beautiful and  Radiant possibilities of the good in me. Perhaps, that is what being a friend means, after all. Perhaps that is true love.

I’ve been looking all over the web and using my offiant for ideas. There are so many out there, it is hard to go through and decide what is right for you.

http://www.todays-weddings.com/planning/readings.html

http://weddings.about.com/od/yourweddingceremony/Your_Wedding_Ceremony_Orders_of_Service_Vows_Readings_and_More.htm

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We did 2 readings for our ceremony and I loved them both:

A love letter by Ronald Reagan to his wife:

Aboard Air Force One

March 4 1983

Dear First Lady

This is the day, the day that marks 31 years of such happiness as comes to few men.  I told you once that it was like an adolescent’s dream of what marriage should be like.  That hasn’t changed.

You know I love the ranch but these last two days made it plain I only love it when you are there.  Come to think of it that’s true of every place & every time.  When you aren’t there I’m no place, just lost in time & space.

I more than love you, I’m not whole without you.  You are life itself to me.  When you are gone I’m waiting for you to return so I can start living again.

Happy Anniversary & thank you for 31 wonderful years.

I love you

Your Grateful Husband

 

From House of Stone by Carmen Bugan

In the village where I was born, we wish
A house of stone to shelter the heart of a marriage
So here too, I wish you
Obstinate, strong love, unyielding and unending.
May you be in reach of each other when all seems lost,
May your tears and your smiles happen always face to face.
When you imagine that you have shared everything
May you know that you still have the rest of your lives
To do it all again and again.
But now listen to the hurry of bells and
Look how the petals of roses about the vineyard
Bring you words of husband and wife:
First words in your house of stone.

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