Post # 1
Bees, Fiance and I have found yet another wedding related topic that we disagree on. My dear Fiance believes that if someone is to do a reading at our wedding ceremony, they must offer to do it and that it’s inappropriate to ask them. I always figured you choose a person who is special to you and ask them if they would do a reading. I never imagined anyone actually saying “Hey, I’d love to do a reading at your ceremony, is that cool?” So, for those who have had/will have a reading, did you ask that person or did they offer? Thanks, bees!
Post # 3
In both mine and my sisters wedding, we asked them. I think it would be really presumptuous/awkward for someone to offer.
Post # 4
I’ve always heard you are supposed to ask. I think it would be awkward if someone offered. What if you didn’t want them to do a reading? How would you say no?
Post # 5
Exactly. I can’t figure out where my Fiance comes up with these things. I’m surprised he didn’t think people would volunteer to be in the bridal party, too. 🙂
Post # 6
I would never offer myself up to do a reading at a friend’s wedding. I would certainly expect to be asked. And I have been/will be asking our own readers.
Post # 7
Yeah, I’m with the PP on this one – I would never in a million years dream of asking to do a reading in someone else’s wedding. Equally, I would be really put off if someone asked if they could do a reading in my wedding! If I want you to play a special role in our day, I will ask you, otherwise, please just be content in knowing that we wanted you to share in our special day with us.
Post # 8
I made a special card to ask our two readers if they would read at our ceremony. They both said they were honored to have been asked.
Post # 10
Ask of course. I recently told my Maid/Matron of Honor that I will have her read a poem and maybe a blessings if my grandmother who is 92 can’t do it. She was more than thrilled since she is my closest girlfriend and I was her Bridesmaid or Best Man @ her wedding.