Ceremony-Reception Gap?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: What would you do in this scenario?
    I would go to neither : (1 votes)
    3 %
    I would go to the ceremony, but not the reception : (3 votes)
    10 %
    I would go to the reception, but not the ceremony : (4 votes)
    13 %
    I would go to both : (22 votes)
    73 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    804 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @rosiedee:  That sounds doable, but I would be concerned about assuming people will show up to the BBQ in shifts.  Many will probably assume it is a traditional wedding and try to stay for the whole thing.

    Post # 5
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    42538 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Why not just have the ceremony at 4:30 and the reception at 6? Noon until 6 pm is a rather long gap for wedding guests.

    If you put BBQ on the invitation, I’m willing to bet that most people will show up at dinnertime.

    Post # 6
    Member
    60 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I think that’s a huge gap to fill. If there was something to do in your area that might be better. We had to wait 5 hours in between once and it was insanely long and boring. We visited and drank casually so much in this time that we didn’t enjoy the reception near as much, which is basically just visiting and casually drinking some more.

    Post # 7
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    1202 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I would go to both, all the events are only 4 blocks apart!  If I was coming from out of town, I could go back to my hotel, take a nap, swim in the pool, check out a shopping district, sightsee, talk a walk, read a newspaper, change my shoes, maybe wear something less formal to the BBQ.        

    Post # 10
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    3344 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

    Are the same people invited to the tea and cakes thing?  I guess I’m confused because it sounds like you’re having two receptions on the same day, which implies two different guest lists.  If everyone is invited to everything, I wouldn’t expect the non-local people to stay for the BBQ.

    Post # 11
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    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’d make sure that it’s very clear that the ceremony/cake is the wedding, and that the BBQ is a seperate, informal, drop-in event!

    And I would definitely attend both!

    Post # 13
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    3344 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

    @rosiedee:  “With an open house, we can have a few more people than we would have planned for originally because people will not all be there at the same time.”

    If the invitation states the 2nd reception starts at 6pm, why would you assume people will not be there at the same time, thus allowing you to invite more guests than the venue can hold?  I’m not sure that’s good planning.  If eveyone shows up at the same time, what will you do?

    The reason I say a lot of out-of-towners might not stick around for the later reception is because of what happened at my wedding.  We had a fairly small event with 46 expected guests total.  A couple people were no-shows and quite a few people left early.  Our wedding was at 2:30pm and the reception was from 4-9pm.  So I was really really shocked that people felt the need to leave early.  But apparently a lot of the out-of-towners didn’t plan on staying the night and drove home during/after the reception.

    So, I say this to you so you won’t be disappointed if it happens to you too.  Personally, I would probably stay for both events.  But I could understand that people are coming to watch you get married.  So after the ceremony and the cake cutting and wishing you well, they may feel like their obligation is fulfilled and they’re ready to start back home.  Hopefully that doesn’t happen, but it’s a possibility worth considering so you’re not caught off guard.

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