My little brother officiated our super small, totally non-religious ceremony. I gave him the following as a base script but allowed him to ad-lib and add his personality to it. I didn’t 100% know what he was going to say until he was saying it. However, in the end, he was fantastic, and I couldn’t have dreamed of him doing a better job.
I found my inspiration here: http://offbeatbride.com/2012/10/wedding-ceremony-101
EVAN: Say whatever you want here to kick things off. I’d like to include some sort of thanks to all those in attendance for making the trip and joining us. Once you’re done, transition into the first reading by introducing Aaron. You can say something like – The bride’s nephew will now read a few words to get this ceremony under way/etc.
Aaron: “I fell in love with her courage, her sincerity, and her flaming self respect. And it’s these things I’d believe in, even if the whole world indulged in wild suspicions that she wasn’t all she should be. I love her and it is the beginning of everything.” – F. Scott Fitzgerald
Evan: Please share a few words/short story about us as a couple and/or about love and marriage in general.
EXCHANGING OF VOWS
Evan: Say something to get this process started. At the end, encourage us to face each other and lock pinkies (since you never break a pinky promise) so we can exchange our personal vows. I really don’t care which of us goes first.
EXCHANGING OF RINGS
Evan: OK – Here comes the really important part. Rachael, do you like it?
Rachael: I do!
Evan: Chris, do you like it?
Chris: I do!
Evan: Then, in the immortal words of Beyoncé, let’s put a ring on it!
(To Rachael): As a symbol of your love and devotion, please place this ring on Chris’s finger and repeat after me.
I vow to help you love life (Rachael Repeats)
To always hold you with tenderness (Rachael Repeats)
To have the patience that love demands (Rachael Repeats)
To speak when worlds are needed (Rachael Repeats)
and to share the silence when they are not (Rachael Repeats)
To live within the warmth of your heart (Rachael Repeats)
And always call it home (Rachael Repeats)
(To Chris): As a symbol of your love and devotion, please place this ring on Rachael’s finger and repeat after me.
I vow to help you love life (Chris Repeats)
To always hold you with tenderness (Chris Repeats)
To have the patience that love demands (Chris Repeats)
To speak when worlds are needed (Chris Repeats)
and to share the silence when they are not (Chris Repeats)
To live within the warmth of your heart (Chris Repeats)
And always call it home (Chris Repeats)
[Evan: Once Chris finishes his part, please transition into one last reading by Aaron.]
Aaron: “I wish you a wrestling match with your Creative Muse that will last a lifetime. I wish craziness and foolishness and madness upon you. May you live with hysteria, and out of it make fine stories… Which finally means, may you be in love every day for the next 20,000 days and out of that love, remake a world.” – Ray Bradbury
KISS AND INTRODUCTION OF NEWLYWEDS
Evan: Say something to the extent of: “By the power vested in me, I now pronounce us as officially married.” If you introduce us as newlyweds, please introduce us as Rachael & Chris / Chris and Rachael, etc. Since I’m not taking his last name, I just don’t want to be called Mrs. Cayer or use Mrs. at all. Don’t forget to tell us to kiss at some point to seal the deal.
Evan: Say whatever you want but please incorporate this quote into it, perhaps as the final sentence of whatever you say: “Who knows where this path will take you, but go forth hand in hand and promise not to let go because it may lead you somewhere vast and amazing.”