Ceremony Seating

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

luluvohn:  I’ve never been shown to a seat at any wedding I’ve been too. We have managed just fine 🙂

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

luluvohn:  For our wedding the only people who were shown to their seats were the mothers and grandparents.  Everyone else figured out where to seat themselves and it was NBD.  

If your mother is concerned though, I have seen where the bride and groom will have friends or family not in the bridal party standing at the end of the aisle passing out programs & letting guests know that they can sit anywhere they like, except the first 2 rows on either side (or however many are reserved for immediate family).  Younger cousins or old college friends who you don’t have in your bridal party, but want them to be part of your wedding would be perfect for this.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ushers are a “nice to have” not a “need to have”. As you said, your guests can easily seat themselves. If your Mom is concerned about guests sitting too close to the front in seats normally reserved for family, you can easily rope those off with ribbon.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

I don’t think they are necessary but older generations like to have ushers showing guests to a seat. Quite a few family weddings I’ve attended have had them, but not a ton of my friends’ weddings in the last 5 years or so have. I’m 29 just for reference there, so majority of my friends are in the late twenties/early thirties that have been getting married and chosen to go without ushers. 

If anything, you could just get two of the groomsmen to stand at the back of the aisle to escort any of the ladies to their seats. But it’s definitely not a necessary thing anymore. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

luluvohn:  thinking about it I don’t think I’ve ever been ushered to my seat at a wedding? So I agree, I think adults are completely capable! 

The one thing I have seen though is some people rush to the front without thinking about family or older guests – one in particular I attended, the grooms grandma was stuck at the back! So I think as long as immediate family have seats towards the front, everyone else can look after themselves! 

Post # 10
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Worker bee

Ushers are not necessary. FH’s brothers will act as ours, only because he insists they be part of the wedding (we aren’t having a bridal party). For every wedding we’ve been to, I walk into the venue with FH, and an usher grabs me away from him, escorts me down the aisle, and FH is stuck walking behind me and random usher guy. To me, It feels a bit like a slight to FH. I know it isn’t meant that way, but it’s basically, “Hey dude, I’m gonna grab your girl and walk over here. You can come too, but stay back there behind us”.

I will be instructing our ushers to escort my mother, direct immediate family to the first 2 rows, and tell other guests to take any seat.  I think FH’a dad should escort FH’s mom.

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