Post # 1
I am so freaking frustrated! I have my FMIL who would like her family to sit up front during the ceremony; completely understandable. BUT, she will need 6 rows reserved. My mother, who doesn’t want reserved seating, would need 4 rows. I am two weeks away from my wedding and don’t really give a crap about this stupid stuff, but I am very stern about the fact that if we have 6 arrangements on the right side, we will have 6 on the left.
My question: My mom’s family will only fill 4 rows. Will guests know it is okay to sit on the other two rows even if flowers are there?
Do you have other recommendations for how to appease both sides?
We are having place cards on the chairs so each family member knows where to sit. I am tying little name cards to the programs and placing them on the chairs.
Help pleaseeee! I’m so tired of discussing this with both sides!
Post # 3
Will you be having ushers? if so, make sure the ushers know that you are reserving 6 rows on the groom’s side, but only 4 on the bride’s, so they should seat guests in those two rows notwithstanding the flowers. you could also add “reserved” signs on those rows to drive the point home.
Post # 4
@Ms. Fondue: Thank you for making that point. The guests will not be seated. We will have groomsmen handing out the programs, but the guests will not be seated. I love the idea of reserved signs on the rows in addition to the arrangements. Thank you!
Post # 5
you’re welcome! just think — only two weeks, you’re almost there!
Post # 6
@ms. fondue: Exactly what I was going to suggest! Great minds and all that. 🙂
I think revered signs would really hammer the point home and possible just give a quick mention to the groomsmen handing out programs that if it looks like those 2 rows aren’t filling up, they should suggest it to the people they are giving programs to that it’s fine to sit there.
Post # 7
Ditto on the reserved signs. We did this and I had way more rows reserved (5 rows vs. DH’s 2) – people didn’t end up sitting in the 3 ‘extra’ rows on DH’s side – which really bummed me out… but, it really didn’t matter! All that really matters is the family has their seats and your dear MIL is fine with it. 🙂 People will want to sit close and will chose rows without the signs (make sure you do several that you can put in intervals on the seat part – and not just one sign per pew).