Post # 1
I am trying to solidify the timeline for our wedding day and it is proving very anxiety provoking! When we sent out our invites we said that the ceremony time was at 4. Our Ceremony and Reception are at the same venue so I won’t take any time for us or our guests to get to the reception. I have been thinking though, that we might actually want to start the ceremony slightly later, maybe 4:30 incase people are running late or other emergencies. I heard a lot of people will place the time on the invite to be earlier for this very reason. Also, we were thinking of starting later because my FI and I both like the dusk lighting a bit more for photos.
Do you think that it would be ok to have the ceremony start at 4:30, if we had it on the invite as 4?
Post # 3
I think that if you don’t say anything to your guests and you start things late, it will come off as rude or just look like you’re really disorganized.
I personally would not change the start time once the invitations have gone out. If you decide that you want/need to, though, I would notify guests somehow. Maybe set up an easel with a big printed out schedule in an elegant typeface saying something like:
4:00 – Arrivals & Prelude Music
4:30 – Ceremony
5:00 – Cocktail Hour
Post # 4
@KCKnd2: I like that idea, or we are going to be making up paddle pans with programs on the back. I could put that on there.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t change the ceremony time at all without notifying guests in advance; putting it on the programs is too late because guests are already there. Most folks are going to show up on time and even a bit early, and it’s really not fair on the guests that arriv at 3:45 to have them sit around for 45 minutes. I’d be pretty ticked off if I made the effort to have an on-time arrival and found out that the start time had been changed “just in case.”
If, on the day of, people seem to be running late (maybe there’s a special event in town that’s creating a lot of extra traffic) inform whoever is doing the music to make an announcement that, out of consideration for those stuck in traffic, you’ll be having a short delay. People totally understand that traffic and other stuff pops up at the last minute and will be a lot more patient if it doesn’t look like you dragged them all out early just because you knew someone else wouldn’t have their act together.
Post # 6
@fishbone: <– This! OP, a lot of people arrive early and it would be unfair and rude to make them wait around another 30 minutes. I would keep the ceremony start time at 4.
Post # 7
I certainly don’t want to be rude, thanks for the feedback!
Post # 8
yeah, I try to get to a wedding 30 minutes prior to the time printed on the invite. I’ve been to weddings that started half and hour late and I was annoyed. But I got over it. On the other hand many many weddings start 5-15 minutes late and I don’t think that’s a problem. People expect that to some degree so I think you could get away with not starting the ceremony until 4:15.