Post # 1
My fiance and I are getting married in the mountains, and would like lots of photos done. My photographer is suggesting 1 hour per location (I would like 3 different locations) and an hour for Bridal Party/Family Photos. Totalling about 4 hours for our portrait photography.
My fiance is adamant that he does not want to do the ‘first look’ photos, he would prefer to see me for the first time walking down the aisle. Doing first look would make having our photos done earlier in the day much easier, but he isnt wavering on that.
If we had the ceremony from 1:00 – 1:30, family and bridal photos right after that 1:30-2:30 and then from 2:30-5:30 did our photos. We would like some time alone together before the reception, so from 530 – 6 we could just be alone together. If cocktail hour starts at 530 – 630 and we show up around 6 ish, is that acceptable? We would potentially have dinner served around 6:30.
I’m worried about our guests having too much time between the ceremony and the reception. Any advice is appreciated!
Post # 3
That’s a HUGE gap. What will you offer to entertain your guests during the gap? Are they going to be standing around for 3 hours, or is there anything to do locally?
Honestly, if I were faced with a gap like that, I’d probably either skip the ceremony or the reception.
Post # 4
That is wayy too long of a gap in my opinion. Unless you are planning something for your guests to do during it, many will find it rude. I agree with PP, I’d skip the ceremony in this case as a guest.
Post # 5
I agree with PP that is way too much time. Would you have something for your guests to do or are they just on their own? I would maybe skip the ceremony as well if faced with this much of a gap and how far I was traveling.
Post # 6
A 4 hour gap is HUGE and way too long (and this is coming from a bride who had the Catholic gap). I think you should try and cut your gap down to 1-2 hours. Here’s what I suggest:
-1 hour at each location seems really excessive. I’d try and cut that down by half and possibely drop one loation.
-1 hour for family/bridal party photos is also a lot. If your photographer is good, those should go much quickly. I think ours took 30, maybe 45 minutes tops. I would try and cut back here too. And make sure everyone who needs to stay knows they need to stay. It will cut down on you trying to hunt everyone down. Don’t assume that certain people will know to stay.
-Do whatever photos you can before the ceremony. You can get pictures of you and your parents, and you and your BMs, etc before hand.
-30 minutes alone time is a lot. I definitely think you should spend a few moments alone together, but I’d cut it down to 10 and do it right after the ceremony as guests are leaving. That’s easiest. Or you can opt to just bride/groom photos at one of your locations. Then it’s just the two of you and the photographer.
-Don’t worry about showing up for cocktail hour. If your ceremony ends at 1:30, I’d plan cocktail hour to go from 3:30-5 (a little longer) with dinner at 5:30. Then you show up around 5. That will give you time to make your enterence, mingle, get seated/situated before dinner.
Post # 7
I’m also having a gap, but mine’s 2.5 hours. I think gaps are fine and they are normal where I live. BUT 4 hours is a pretty long gap. I understand about not wanting first look photos, because I don’t want that either. I think you could cut each location to 30-40 minutes and still have tons of photos. How many poses do you really need right?
Post # 8
@Pinkmoon: It must be a canadian thing to have longer gaps (we’re in alberta). This is true… im sure we can cut it down a bit and still have more than enough photos to make us happy.
Post # 9
@RunsWithBears: The timing of the photo sessions was actually suggested by my photographer. I would much rather listen to her advice than not budget enough time and pay quite a bit of money on very limited photos.
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
That is a massive gap…are there things to do in the area? My photographer only had us for an hour and got a ton of amazing photos. If I were your bridal party I don’t think I’d be thrilled to be going about that for 4 hours.
Post # 11
Do you have anything for the guests to do in the meantime?
What does your fiance think of this gap? Is he okay with this huge gap just because he doesn’t want to see you? Does he have something for the guests to do?
Honestly I would try to get him to change his mind. We’re doing first look photos for this exact reason…because I cannot have (and do not want) a 2-3 hour gap. Luckily FI is happy to do whatever it is I want.
Otherwise you can cut out one of your locations, so you only have 2. I don’t think you need 1 hour per location honestly. I think 30-40 minutes is plenty. Also depending on how big your family is, my photographer said typically 30 min is all they need and even with the largest family she’s had, it’s never taken more than 45 min.
Honestly I think 2 hours is plenty for all bridal party photos, plus 40 min for family. Then you just have your travel time between sites…I’m guessing that isn’t much?
Post # 12
@FutureMrsA2014: Sure, I get that’s what your photographer suggested. But based on how my pictures went, 1 hour still seems like a long time. We did 3 locations + family photos at the church, got some great pictures, and still made it to the reception in just under 3 hours (we missed cocktail hour).
I know that you want to get your money’s worth and get some great pictures, but you do need to think of your guests. A small gap is fine, a 4 hour gap is not. =/
Post # 13
@whoa_its_ash: the bridal party wont be with us for all of it. We will do one location to do the bridal party photos and photos with our family. and the rest would just be the two of us.
@kes18: He keeps trying to make the gap longer, and i keep trying to explain that its not really appropriate! As far as the hour goes, its for Bridal party AND family (30 minutes each). Travel time is yet to be determined.
Post # 14
- Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest
I think that’s too much of a gap as well. Do you need all three locations? Could you do pre-ceremony photos with your girls at one location, your groom and groomsmen at the second location before the ceremony, and then after the ceremony you go to the third/favourite location together… that way you get photos of all three locations and avoid the need for such a gap.
Post # 15
I had almost 3 hours for pictures. Let me tell you, it was so not worth it. We had great pictures, but I would have SO MUCH RATHER spent that time with family & friends who travelled and took time out of their lives to spend with us.
Do you need to have 3 locations? That seems like a lot. Can you do a photo shoot after your wedding day?’
Unless all of your guests are local and can go home inbetween the ceremony & reception, or you have events planned in the gap, it’s annoying to have a 4 hour window of time.
Post # 16
I live in alberta and I wouldn’t be happy about a long gap