Post # 1
I’ve noticed that all of my friends have “Homily’s” at their wedding. I see the wedding ceremony as a worship service. But I also want it to be less formal because we’re doing ours outside. We want to do a quick ceremony to keep the guests from being too hot, and in general I just don’t like long ceremonies.
What type of ceremony are you having? Will you have scripture and a message? If so, are you calling it a Homliy? What about a Charge to the Couple? What other Christian aspects of the ceremony are using–please include exact wording on your program. It will really help me out! 🙂
Post # 3
I’d like to know this as well as we’ll be having our ceremony outside.
I’m pretty much trying to plan for a hour ceremony however because I was told that we MUST have a “message” (sermon) during the ceremony.
Post # 4
Well, you don’t have to have a message. But it’s pretty typical for Christian weddings. I don’t think you have to allot an hour for the ceremony though… that seems way long! I think messages are usually on the shorter side (15-20 minutes max?) at wedding ceremonies. But that is just in my circle of friends. I told my brother to keep it short, so more like 10 minutes for me 🙂
Post # 5
@kperry3: I agree. I don’t believe that you HAVE to have a message. Ideally, I would want it to be no more than 15 minutes, however, when I talked to the pastor’s secretary, she informed that I should actually allot at least 30 minutes for him to speak.
Hopefully, I can convince my pastor otherwise though. Especially since the wedding is on a Sunday and people would have already gone to church and heard a “message” for the day.
Post # 6
@YSQueen: Oh, it just sounded like you were being prodded into it. I think it will turn out fine either way 🙂 Hopefully he is “sermoned” out and will only want to talk for 15 minutes. Who knows though, good luck with planning it all 🙂
What did everyone else include in their ceremony?
Post # 7
Our pastor gave a message, but it was super short. I think our entire ceremony took 20-25 minutes. I was definitely a fan…. Standing up there with all those peopel looking at me was kind of nerve wracking.
Post # 8
I think you should include what you would want to hear. For my wedding, we are including verses from the Bible but not a “teaching” or “message”. We are keeping it short but also want to make sure that we do make connections between our marriage and God and the Bible.
Post # 9
This is what our Order of Ceremony looks like. I can’t wait! : )
Declaration of Intent
Exchange of Rings
Post # 10
What we’re planning for our 30-40mn ceremony:
Greeting & Opening Prayer
Song- Come Thou Fount of Every Blessing by Robert Robinson
Readings- OT, NT
(shortish) Sermon by the Reverend J (I get a kick out of using his title as we knew him in seminary before he was anything but “J”)
Song- still to be decided upon (I want a more contemporary worship song, he wants Be Thou my Vision)
Reading- Selection from Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis
Post # 11
Is a “homily” like a sermon? Cause we unexpectedly have to have one if we use our pastor.
We seriously have 90 minutes to get in, decorate, get married, take photos, undecorate and get the crap outta there before the next wedding.
He wants to talk for 20 minutes about the ephesians verse “wives submit to your husbands…etc” I love that verse, but we’re trying to get him into 10 minutes or less
Post # 12
@M.Ruder: Yea, a homily is basically a mini sermon. If your pastor talks for 20 minutes then your ceremony might last 30 minutes altogether? Depending on what you’re including in the ceremony. It doesn’t take terribly long for everyone to walk down the aisle. I dunno though!
Post # 13
My fiance and I are very involved in church and strong in our faith, so we definitely wanted to include a very prominent Christian theme for our ceremony, but at the same time, we didn’t want our guests to be checking their watches and looking around distracted because of such a long-winded, drawn-out ceremony. We are allotting only about 35 minutes for our ceremony, but we both feel very content with what we are including and what we decided to leave out. This is what we are planning for our ceremony, in order:
– Party Processional
– Bridal Processional
– Call to Worship (introduction, statement of purpose, etc.)
– Prayer of Invocation (prayer for the service and its purpose)
– Scripture Reading (Colossians 3:12-17… We chose this passage because right after the scripture reading we are going to take communion. We thought this was a good, fitting passage to not only sum up what God’s calling is for us as a married couple, but what and who we are called to be in our individual lives.)
– Communion (Just my FI and I on stage- bread & juice)
– Exchange of Vows
– Exchange of ring (With speech about the meaning and importance of the rings)
– Wedding Prayer (prayer for us, our marriage, our lives together, our family, etc.)
– The Pronouncement
– The Kiss!
Post # 14
this is what we had. our wedding was 35 minutes long.
seating of mothers, grandmothers, etc.
bridal party entrance
message (he talked about comittment to each other, having christ the center of it, encouraging each other in our calling)
exchange of vows–we wrote our own
exchange of rings
communion (while my girlfriend sang a song)
Post # 15
Our ceremony ran alot like @MissDareDevil‘s but we had Worship and THEN took communion… DH and I wanted a moment to stop and really let God take hold of us before our first act of husband and wife… It was my favorite part of the ceremony for sure! =)
Post # 16
Our ceremony was about an hour (I think?). It looked like this:
Walk down the aisle
Parents give the bride away
Bouquet in memory of the grooms dad (who passed away earlier that year)
Scripture reading (by my dad)
Short message (he did keep it pretty short :-D)
Pledges (the “I do” part)
Vows (we wrote our own)
Exchange of rings
Communion and lighting the unity candle
Prayer over us (we invited our families and several significant people in our lives to come up and pray over us while the rest of congregation prayed from their seats)