Ceremony with no Reception

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Smmg:  I think a ceremony without a reception is acceptable– I assume it will be known by your guests ahead of time.

I don’t believe that people give gifts just because they are invited to a reception– but rather to support a new couple.  That said, don’t be surprised if some people don’t end up bringing gifts.

If you want to get married and have close family and friends there to witness it, go for it.

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Smmg:  I think it would be rude to invite 30-50 people to witness your vows and not offer them any sort of refreshments. It need not be fancy, coffee and tea and cake will suffice. Just be sure that you do not schedule the reception over any time when your guests would be expecting a meal.

If you do schedule your ceremony for a low demand day or time, you can likely get a restaurant’s private room and catering within your budget. You could also use someone’s home.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Smmg:  Refreshments to follow.

If you have  1:30 or 2pm ceremony, your guests would not be expecting a meal to be served at 2:00 or 2:30 pm.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Smmg:  I agree with @julies1949, as I so often do.

I think you will have to push your ceremony to 2:00pm if it will be 30 minutes. At 9 or 10am I would expect breakfast! If you move the ceremony to 2:00pm, no one will expect a meal and you can serve cake and refreshments!

Assuming I had to wake up at at least 7:00am to get ready and make it on time to the wedding, I might be cranky by 11:30 or noon if all I’ve had to eat was some cake!

Also, I am so sorry to hear about your initial plans fallings apart 🙁 That’s a bummer. But cake and punch receptions are a ton of fun, and everyone loves cake!!

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Smmg:  I don’t think most of your guests would be expecting breakfast for an early wedding. 9 am could be a bit early though for guests who have to get ready and perhaps travel. A 10 am ceremony might give guests the impression that brunch would be served after. 9:30 anyone?

You could change the wording to coffee and cake to follow so your guests are clear that you are not serving  a meal. Do not try to prolong the reception too long or people will expect brunch or lunch if you go past 11 or so.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Smmg:  

Can you have a morning ceremony and take everyone out for brunch afterwards?

That would be a lot cheaper than offering a full plated meal. 

 

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

As a guest, I’d much rather go to a casual backyard bbq type  celebration to welcome you home after eloping than to go to a ceremony with a rushed cake-and-coffee reception. The reception is when people like to mingle and celebrate. Trying to cram it in between meal periods is just rushing me, and it’s inhospitable. The reception is supposed to thank the guests for their support.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Smmg:  

Good for you! I’m glad you are close to finding a workable solution. 

You may have to cut your guest list a little bit to save money.

I know you may not want to but if there are budget constraints, this is certainly a consideration. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I had 40 guests for brunch. Our reception bill was about $1100 (and I live in southern CT, so while not as expensive as Miami, a higher-cost area of the country). I just had to search for the right place. It’s totally doable, and I had a blast.

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