Post # 1
I’m just getting started in planning and thought of maybe having the wedding in a nice park in my home town. My mom called the town and asked about it and it is free to do ceremonies (you need to hire a cop if you have over 100 people), but they do not allow chairs. This is maybe a problem, but its going to be a non-religious ceremony and I think it will be really short, and i’d say most of my family and his would be fine standing for 20-30 mins or whatever- Except FI grandmother, but i think she could use a wheelchair.
So, is this a terrible idea? will people hate it? The lady at the town hall said people get married there all the time (even in December in the snow!), so their families must have thought it was fine??
Post # 3
I have decided to do this option.
I will be bringing just a few chairs with a “reserved for those who need to sit” sorta sign for FI’s grandparents.
I think that 20 min is fine. Most people wait longer then that in a grocery check out line.
One thing you may want to do is make a note about it on your wedding website (if you will be having one). Just so people know to wear comfortable clothing/shoes. If you arent having a site, maybe spread the news by word of mouth.
Post # 4
Obviously you are free to do it if that’s where you want to have the ceremony, but people won’t be happy about standing.
Post # 5
I had people stand, but the ceremony was literally less than 5 minutes. (A friend timed it.) For 20+ minutes, I would prefer to sit.
Post # 6
Keep in mind that people will be arriving at least a few minutes before your start time, so they will be on their feet longer than 20-30 minutes. I pretty much always wear heels to weddings and would not be thrilled about standing.
Post # 7
@tranquility: They actually don’t allow chairs at all, but I honestly doubt it would even be 20 mins long. I would definitly let people know in advance about the lack of seating, i’ll probably ask some people who are going to be invited what they think before deciding.
Post # 8
I think the longest ceremony that you can ask your guests to remain standing for is about 10 minutes, tops.
I always arrive (and many other people do as well) 15-20 minutes before the ceremony start time so if you then add a 20-30 minute ceremony and assume that everything starts on time, people are still standing for a really long time and won’t be too happy about it.
Post # 9
I agree that anything longer than 10 minutes is too long to stand. I would not be happy if I was standing for that long. Especially if I was wearing a dress and heels.
Post # 10
Guests will not like to stand for 20-30 minutes, that is a very long time to stand still for. Also keep in mind that guests will be standing from before the ceremony starts since they arrive before it starts. I dont think its a good idea.
Post # 11
I would not be a happy camper (I’d deal and never say a word to the bride though). Assuming I get there 20 minutes early that means I’m standing for possibly 50 minutes in grass in heels. There are logistical issues too. How many people are you expecting? How are you going to define an aisle/ceremony space? Will everyone be able to see you (esp the shorter guests)? Are people going to spread out as the ceremony goes on thus getting in the way for photos?
Post # 12
I was recently at a wedding where they had only a few seats, for parents and grandparents. It was fine standing, but guests filled in the aisle as soon as the ceremony started. The couple basically had to plow through everyone as they recessed. I noticed the photographer had some difficulty getting shots of the recessional because of this as well. If you don’t have chairs, and don’t want to push through a crowd, use something to designate your aisle.
Post # 13
We’re having limited seating. Not everyone will stand but, some might have to. Our Ceremony should be short.
I’m standing in a heavy dress, with heels. My FH will be standing, my bridesmaids and grooms men will be standing. If they can do it, so can a few ablebodied guests.
Post # 14
In addition to the problem of people standing, you have to think about it aesthetically. I went to a wedding where it was standing only, and the ceremony looked very messy. Everyone was all jumbled about since no one knew exactly where to stand and there wasn’t really a designated aisle.
Post # 15
If my husband and I were invited to a wedding with no seating, we would have to decline. We don’t fall into the old category, but I severely broke my ankle a few years ago and my husband has a back injury, so neither of us can stand for long periods of time. If we are able to walk around, we can both manage, but standing for more than 5 minutes in one place is not a good thing for either of us.
Post # 16
I wouldn’t be happy. Because the ceremony will likely start 10mins late, I will have arrived 10-15 mins early (becasue that’s the polite thing to do) and then we’ll be chilling out and mingling for another 15mins after the ceremony. That adds up to over an hour of standing from arrival to departure. Not cool.