- 10 years ago
- Wedding: February 2008
Please pretty ladies, help me out here. It’s long, but I am DESPERATE.
I got engaged June of ’07. In August ’07 we found what we thought was the perfect location for ceremony/reception – an old, rustic lodge with a beautiful large stone patio that goes out over a lake. We had the entire run of the lodge for 24 hours – noon the day of the wedding to noon the day after the wedding. Also, we had the use of 5 bedrooms. Perfect, right?
Also, fiance was in the military, so he has a ton of military buddies coming in who are all friends with each other. There are about 5 couples coming in who haven’t seen each other in over 5 years, so this lodge was going to be the best opportunity for everyone to get to spend some good, quality time together.
Ok, so we’ve been to the lodge one other time since then. A family had rented out the place, and so their stuff was scattered every where and the woman who takes care of the property was pretty scatterbrained, but we thought that it was just because she was trying to take care of this family.
My mom emails the lodge this week so that we can go back out. When we saw them in August we were promised a bevy of decorations, tables, chairs, they would set up for the wedding, and they would tear down the ceremony and set up for the reception during pictures. The only thing we had to worry about was food and finding people to serve it.
The emails now though – she is saying that they don’t have any of this stuff and she has no idea where we even got the idea that they would help us out! My parents are now freaking out and wanting to have the wedding somewhere else (probably our church).
Things also to consider – my parents had damage to THEIR house, and some of our wedding budget went to fixing the house (which, come ON, how could I tell them to NOT fix their flooded house?). If we stay the lodge, the budget is done. We don’t have money for the extras that the lodge was allegedly going to provide, so we are talking a bare-bones wedding.
So do we take the money that would have went to the lodge (they didn’t require a deposit, should have been a warning!!) which is a HUGE chunk of change and throw a fabulous ceremony/reception at another location, or do we suck it up? Fiance is afraid his friends won’t be able to come now because they were going to stay at the lodge for free, saving them a night of hotels.
And if we DO move it – we’re 38 DAYS away from the wedding. How do we tell the over 150 people that the wedding is being moved? Send out another set of invites? Call everyone? Write it in the sky? PLEASE, I need some advice, I’m desperate here.