(Closed) Cermony Program? FFIL deceased

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper

My father and my FI’s father are both deceased.  People will be taking the roles they would have played, had they been alive – but we are not listing them in the program (the late father’s).  

Could you add something about your FFIL – in a different section – kind of a tribute to his memory?  

That way – he’s still in the program and honored – just not listed as if he was standing up there.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I think the wording for parents looks fine. However, I’m not sure why you would only have one grandparent listed. If you are including his late father, it seems like late grandparents should also be there. But that might make it too long and complicated, so maybe don’t list grandparents at all? 

Also, for the cousin, just include him in the wedding party section as “Name – Best Man”. I’m not sure what you mean by standing in for his father, but in any case, using the program to try to convey that he’s just a fill-in rather than best man in his own right probably isn’t a good idea.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We’re planning on only listing our family members who are still alive in the “wedding party” section, with the remainder in the “remembrances” section.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I put a sentance at the end of my program saying:

“There are many people who we wish could have been here today but espcially Ms. Caniche’s Granfather (name) and Mr. Caniche’s father (name).”

We thought it was a nice way to mention those who have passed.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I still listed my dad under parents even though he is deceased because he’s still my dad!  So ours reads Brides Dad (deceased) and Brides Stepmom.   There is also a note about him in our rememberance section. 

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper

Just another thought – It was really important to me to have our father’s names on the invitation.  FI and I are paying for it – but we are wording it:  Jane Doe, daughter of the Sue and the late Jack Doe…. John Smith, son of Barbara and the late Bill Smith.

Perhaps you can incorporate something like that – and still put something nice in the program about FFIL.

 

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