Post # 1
Im getting married on a small patio overlooking the lake. There will not be enough room for everyone to be seated in chairs, so we are going to have people stand, with the exception of a few chairs for people who need to sit. Our ceremony is going to be a short one.
Do you think we should cut the guest list down for the ceremony only, so that we can have everyone seated?
Post # 3
I would say as long as those who need to be seated (elderly, pregnant women, etc) and as long as the ceremony is short, standing wouldn’t be a problem.
Post # 4
how far would you need to trim your list to get everyone seated?
If you’re planning on a standing ceremony, no matter how short, you should probably let your guests know ahead of time – word of mouth, on the website if you’ve got a tech savvy bunch, even on the invites if you’re not too concerned with etiquette. People need to know though.
Post # 5
agreed- make sure they know. if i were a guest i’d want to know so i didn’t wear 6 inch stilettos
Post # 6
It would need to be trimmed by about 20 people if I were to do that.
I will definately let everyone know if they do have to stand though.
Post # 7
The ironic thing is that if you tell people they will be standing, you might have 20 fewer guests chose to attend the ceremony! But really – you do need to tell your guests. I have bad knees (needed physical therapy a few years ago to give me the ability to walk back) and I would be really embarrassed to request a chair, since I look very healthy. I’d be much more comfortable skipping the ceremony than deciding if I needed to ask for a chair or try to stand for longer than possible.
Post # 8
I’m planning on a ceremony where most of the guests are standing. We’re having a section of reserved seats for parents, grandparents, and others who need a seat. We’ve spread the word via my our wedding website and word of mouth. Our ceremony will be about 15 minutes.
I’d say as long as they know ahead of time, you should be fine. And think about your guest list and try to find out who might need to be seated for the ceremony. I think it can be done nicely though.
Post # 9
As I was litterally just about to start a thread on this same topic, lo and behold, I saw yours! I am planning on having seats available for those who need them (elderly, disabled, those who simply cannot stand for whatever reason) becuase my space just isn’t big enough to have chairs for everyone. I am going to let people know ahead of time, and keep the ceremony itself short. At first I was worried about it, but I think it should be okay as long as people know ahead of time.