Post # 1
Of all the sanctimonious and presumptious tripe….does this “writer” believe that she is the first one to say such things?
It’s hilarious this woman believes that people are “snobby” for suggesting that tests should be necessary to become a parent, yet she can’t see her own inherent snobbiness in writing an article just to preach at people who choose not to have children. She talks about being “single”….this woman is stupid if she thinks that every childfree person doesn’t have a partner. Does she realize that people can be single parents as well? I guess not.
” ‘Fun’ is not the only measure we should apply to our lives.” Who is she to decide how others should define their lifestyles? Being happy is a completely valid life goal and it comes in many forms. For some people, happiness means not having children to raise. For others, they can’t imagine being happy unless they have several kids.
I’m glad that being a new mother was euphoric for her. However, this writer is ignorant because she believes that her experience is universal. Becoming a new parent can be fraught with mental health conditions. It’s like she has never heard of post partum depression or psychosis. She’s also ignoring the growing faction of mothers who regret having children. I bet she’s the type to criticize those moms for being honest about their feelings concerning parenting.
People who think that only parents can care more about children, the future and the environment are ignorant and small minded. What about childfree teachers who invest in the next generation by imparting wisdom and life lessons to the next generation? What about childfree pediatricians?
Post # 2
That article is maddening. Not having children doesn’t make you any less aware of trials or tribulations of those around you- child or adult. It just sounds like she personally didn’t care for other people and still doesn’t seem to if she’s writing articles like that. What sanctimonious garbage.
Post # 3
I dont understand why she cares if random strangers have children or not. I didn’t realize that so many women were coming forward with their regrets about becoming a mother until I googled it now and wow that was refreshing and interesting to read about!
Post # 4
Sounds like someone grappling with insecurities she can’t consciously acknowledge.
Post # 5
groomsister35 : Wow is all I can say.
This gem in particular made me want to say a big fuck you to her and her ridiculous notions
“It makes you notice them and think about their well-being. Which is to say, it makes you less selfish.”
That is the biggest BS statement ever. I started my career in children’s protective services and I saw a hell of a lot of selfish parents who DGAF about their child’s wellbeing. There was a thread on here the other day by a parent who didn’t seem to care about other childrens wellbeing when it came to her child (who had done the wrong thing).
Some of the most selfless people I know are CFBC and some are parents. A rewarding life and the priorities/choices in life that makes it rewarding are individual. It is great that being a mother is rewarding for some women but that doesn’t make you a better person than someone who chooses another path.
I think this article is equally insulting to women who want to be mothers and can’t. But then these types of articles often are.
Post # 6
Nice to see you here! I always love your posts.
I agree that many parents are very selfish. I’ve known some who put their freedom and enjoyment of life ahead of their children no matter how much the children suffer because of their parents’ choices.
This “author” is clearly insecure about her decision to have children and she’s also very misinformed. What kind of idiot thinks that motherhood is blissful for EVERY mom?
Post # 7
This honestly made me laugh. It’s so ridiculous that it somehow doesn’t make me mad. Except for the part about how CFBC people couldn’t possibly care about the environment or the world we leave behind. That makes my blood boil a little bit.
How do we stop global warming? Have kids! And ensure your kids have kids! That’ll change things.
Post # 8
I wish I could also be as naive and guillable as this writer. It must be nice since as they say, “ignorance is bliss.” Meanwhile, I’m going to be “happy” knowing I am ending an abandonment/abusive mother-daughter streak that goes back 4 (possibly 5) generations in my family. The “babies make you euphoric and caring” gene must have died in my family sometime in the 1890s.
Post # 9
Articles like this shame mothers who may not enjoy motherhood as much as she does.
This is why so many women struggle with motherhood-they aren’t given freedom from society to share how they really feel about raising children.
Excellent point about global warming!
Post # 10
groomsister35 : yeeeaahhh….because the environment CLEARLY needs more people 🤔 also, choosing to become a parent (not to be conflated with parenting) is the most narcissistic, selfish decision one can make. It’s literally thinking that you are so amazing and your genes are so great that there should be more of you in the world. And he reasons people give for having kids? They just “want to be parents” or something along those lines. In other words, they’re making that decision from THEIR OWN SELF INTEREST. That’s selfish.
Post # 11
I find it especially selfish when parents lack the emotional and financial resources to care for a child yet they have children anyway. My blood boils when someone can barely put food on the table yet they are bringing children into the world. Don’t even get me started on those who have untreated mental/emotional/psychiatric issues but they have children anyway.
A former bestie is the single mother of 3 children. I wouldn’t have minded if she wasn’t constantly complaining about money while living on welfare. She was also aware that the father of her first two children was a loser but she still had two children with him. She kept begging me for cash because I was stupid enough to help her a couple of times. I’m not a frigging bank and it wasn’t my fault that she couldn’t make better choices. I heard that she had another baby and I’m completely disgusted. Those poor kids are going to grow up in poverty with no father because their mother is an idiot.
Post # 12
So deliriously happy with her life choices yet lashing out. Curious. 💅🏻
Post # 13
I find it funny that she thinks her stupid article is going to change minds and lifestyles.
“YOU NEED TO READ THIS!!”
I’m going to start trying TONIGHT now that I have read this piece of revolutionary literature!
Post # 14
She very much has they attitude of this is MY EXPERIENCE and if others become Moms they will have the EXACT SAME EXPERIENCE AS ME.
Guess what? Life doesn’t work that way.
Post # 15
I think she’s one of the most naivest people I’ve ever f*cling seen for this topic, and very up herself. Oh yes, this piece of literature will totally change my mind!
Having a child may be right for some but it swings the other way too. And how naive she is shows in many areas here like basically saying that people who don’t want children just want to continue their ‘fun’ days. No. Most CFBC don’t not have children because they want to continue to party, they have reviewed everything and the lifestyles with a child just isn’t for them. People can live however the hell they want! It’s not crazy to just not want to have a child in your life.
Another would have to be when she says life isn’t about happiness…. Ummm WTF!? I don’t know about anybody else but yea… I kind of do aim to have my life so I am happy and how I would like to be. Bizarre comment. Basically saying, f*ck being happy in life when apparently a child changes everybody positively, makes no sense on so many levels.
Also, like other CFBC, I work with children too in education. I don’t think not having a child hinders me in how I am doing my job. I work with some very underprivileged children who have gone through a lot, just being a parent clearly doesn’t make you automatically superior or even good with kids.
Shes basically saying screw it and have kids no matter how you feel because it’s apparently going to be awesome. What a horrible message to say to people, basically saying we shouldn’t have a choice and it’ll all turn out great even if it isn’t what you want. Seen too many cases where this isn’t so.