Post # 1
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
Another bee’s post about chairs reminded me we have a seating dilemma of our own.
We are having both the ceremony and reception at different areas outdoors on the same property. The ceremony will be about 100 yards away from the dinner area, in a spot surrounded by lovely flowering cherry trees (which is why we picked it), and dinner is on the porch of the villa itself. The caterers are bringing chairs, tables, etc for dinner, but since we didn’t get the whole “wedding package” from the venue (which included ceremony setup, chairs, flowers, etc), they are not bringing extra chairs for the ceremony.
They have told us we can use the chairs from the dinner area, but that we will have to move them ourselves. We have 16 people sitting for the ceremony. I am definitely not going to ask my guests to move their own chairs, so I was thinking of asking the groomsmen (there are 2) if they could move the chairs back to the dining area during cocktail hour. But now that I am considering it more, I would rather they enjoy the experience and not have to haul things in their fancy clothes. (Also, the other guests may feel inclined to help them, and I don’t want people to feel awkward.)
The catering company will not bring extra chairs, and they will not move them for us. What are our options, here? We are getting married in Italy, so we can’t bring our own chairs. What would you do?
Post # 2
gingerkitten: to clarify- are you only providing chairs for 16 people to sit or are there 16 people attending the wedding?
Although you are being very thoughtful about the groomsmen, I really don’t think it would be an imposition to ask the groomsmen to move 16 chairs 100 yards. It will take them a few minutes at most.
Post # 3
If it’s only 16 chairs, I would just move them. If the guests try to move their own chairs and you don’t want them to just tell them “we’ve got this!” It’s not going to take away from the groomsmen’s experience of the wedding to spend 5 minutes moving chairs, your groom can help too. If your bridesmaids and your dresses aren’t too difficult to move in I would help too and get it done faster. You could all get it done in one trip and then everything is set.
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
julies1949: There are 16 people “attending”. The others will be standing with us (bridesmaids, groomsmen). Total we will have 23 people (1 bride, 1 groom, 2 bm, 2 gm, 1 officiant/aunt).
I’m glad that you don’t think it will be a big deal to move them. I was fine with it at first, and I think wedding brain got the best of me.
pixiecat: It would definitely be faster if we helped, too. I figure 2 chairs per person (one under each arm), so it should be fairly quick.
Post # 5
gingerkitten: I think I will have a similar problem as you do I want a particular set up for my ceremony and those will be the chairs used for seating in the reception. My only solution was that if those I’m getting to set up (they will also be taking down) are still there that they move them. I will have to see how long they are willing to stay (can take everything down the next day if they like so they might set up and leave). While that is going on I’m taking pictures and it will be cocktail hour I’m keeping the guests busy with activities/games and such personally wouldn’t want them moving anything also. If you have anyone helping with setup see what they can and will do. If not I don’t think the groomsmen would mind to much atleast its 16 chairs rather then the 200+ chairs that mine will have. Good luck!!
Post # 6
With such a small wedding I would just have the groomsmen move them. If it was 100 people or something I’d say definitely not, but 16 chairs shouldn’t take more than a minute or two.
Post # 7
Honestly, I think asking the groomsmen will be fine. It shouldn’t take very long, and as long as they don’t consider it an imposition, then problem solved.
If I were a guest at such an intimate wedding, I’d definitely try to move a chair to help out. I’m sure your guests will behave similarly. I don’t think that’s tacky unless you had an expectation of your guests to move the chairs.
Also, consider asking the venue/servers if you can pay a bit extra just to have them take care of this issue.