Post # 1
We weren’t originally planning on providing our guests with champagne for the toast (we’re on a tight budget and the venue we’re using charges an arm and a leg extra for this – we have to pay by bottle and the only choice is fairly expensive champagne). We were originally thinking of having the guests simply toast with their own beverages/cocktails rather than providing champagne during the toast. The thing is, my mom just spilled the beans that she is getting us toasting flutes that are being flown in from Ireland as a gift for the reception and would like us to have champagne. Is it tacky if we provide champagne for the wedding party (and possibly our parents) during the toast but not all of the guests at the reception?
Post # 3
I think you should provide champagne for everyone or no one.
Post # 4
I talked with our bartender about the champane thing and he said that 93% of people he has served dont like champane. When I asked him what he thought of us only ordering 2 bottles for 60 people he said that would be the right amount. Otherwise it will be poured down the drain. Its a hard choice but if i were you id offer it to anyone who wants it and just not plan on a hole lot people wanting it anyways. I know im not going to have any in my glass. haha. good luck.
Post # 5
I agree with noritake22, champagne for everyone or no one. Have you asked if they have a corkage fee? Maybe you can buy sparkeling wine (same thing, just the grapes aren’t grown in the Champagne region of France so they can’t be called champagne) at a cheaper price and serve that. You could save the toasting flutes for later that night when you and your new hubby are alone and you can toast to each other.
Post # 6
I think champagne for the wedding party is just fine, but I agree with the others that you might have sparkling wine available for those who would like to partake.
Post # 7
I’ve heard of a special bottle of wine at the bridal table during dinner, but the toast is an especially communal, and for the bride and groom, spotlit moment, that I would consider this tacky and even unkind. If your venue allows outside beverages with a corkage fee, you still might get away paying a lot less money for supermarket cheap bubbly – guests won’t notice or care if they’re drinking $5 sparkling, but many of them will likely want sparkling something. Otherwise, just drink sparkling cider along with everyone else, and place the meaning of the moment in the fact that you’re enjoying hearing the kind words of your loved ones. How wonderful that your mom is getting you toasting flutes!
PS …. Even having said that, it is worth noting that if your mom won’t let this go, you might have your flute and your groom’s flute filled inconspicuously in a different room and then brought to you, so that you could enjoy champagne without letting anyone feel left out.
Post # 8
If your only choice is an expensive champagne and you have to pay by the bottle, I would have the stuff only poured for you and your husband and available to everyone else by request. Most people won’t even think to ask for it and I guarantee no one will think it’s weird that you two are getting champagne while everyone else has their cocktail of choice. That way it’s availalbe to everyone who wants it, but you aren’t pouring it down the drain by giving it to people who won’t drink it just to be polite.
Post # 9
We’re doing it (champagne for bridal party head table and the two parent tables)!!
I don’t think its tacky at all (especailly because our venue provides champagne for the head table so I’m sure they have a TON of weddings where people choose to not pay additional for everyone else to have it too). Our other guests will have unlimited access to wine and beer so they won’t be out something to toast with.
Champagne costs too much to have so much go to waste from all the guests being poured a glass and a large percentage having ZERO desire to drink it.
Oh – and if anyone asks or comments – we’ll just tell them that it was something the venue provides for those sets of people. Other guests will have no way to know differently!
Post # 10
what you could do is champagne for the bridal party and white wine or spirkeling wine for the rest of the people I dont see why not 🙂
Post # 11
I worked catering through college, and never gave it a second thought when only the bridal party was served champagne. It worked because the bridal table was always special and separate, anyway. The rest of the guests either had sparkling grape juice or toasted with their drink of choice.
Post # 12
I’ve been in a bridal party where only the hotel was offered champagne. I didn’t think it was tacky, and neither did my FI who didn’t get any. There was wine on the table, and most people toasted with whatever they had.
Post # 13
We had a 15 bottle minimum order for any type of wine or champagne at my venue. So i’m bringing a mini bottle of champagne for myself in my purse ;-). No, seriously. I want a pomegranate-champagne drink – but i’m not willing to pay $600 for it.
Post # 14
Wow, I have to disagree with the majority of posters here–I think only serving the wedding party champagne is really, really rude and I would notice for sure if I were a guest, and feel really slighted. It’s like saying that only your wedding party is special and everyone else can have the less exciting, less celebratory, less special drinks. I don’t know, just really rubs me the wrong way. I think that it’d be fine if only the bride and groom drank it, but having some guests and not others be allowed champagne just seems awful. You don’t need to buy enough champagne for literally EVERY SINGLE PERSON at the wedding, since a lot of people won’t drink it, but it doesn’t seem right to me at all to just buy enough to cover the wedding party.
Post # 15
I say it should be for everyone or noone. As a guest I expect a champagne toast, and if only some poeple were provided with champagne, I would be seriously miffed.
Post # 16
Champagne for all or none at all.