- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
Ok – so I’ve been wondering about all of this from you lovely ladies (and men out there…) – when it comes to your relationship – I guess this would be geared more towards those who’ve lived together for a while – are you OK with “changing” your own habits to make him/her happy?
We have ONE argument and ONLY one that we ever argue about. And that is cleaning. He’s a neat freak and was brought up (which, don’t get me wrong, it’s a GREAT thing that he’s not a slob…) but he was brought up that as soon as he is done eating/cooking/doing anything in the kitchen, he cleans up EVERYTHING. dishes get washed, put away, spray down the counters, etc.
I – however – while I am NOT a slob by any means – I have NO problems leaving dishes in the sink for a day until I get to them later (honestly I’m talking 1 day at most)…
I LIKE things clean, but I’ve never been the kind that has to clean up the SECOND I’m done with something.
He wants me to be like this. Again this is the ONE and ONLY issue we really have together.
It’s a hard habit to break / begin – mainly because this ISN’T how I’ve ever been. Sometimes I do – and I’ve REALLY been trying to be better for our marriage – as this is the ONE thing he asks me to do…but again, it’s just not a habit of mine and so it doesn’t come “natural”…
Now – the other night we had a discussion about this – and I keep telling him how I DO try but he always seems to get angry over the few small times when I DON’T do it instead of recognizing all of the times i DO do it.
Course I came back to him with the one thing that reallllly irritates me about him and that is, when we’re out with our friends, or even just in general – if I say something that isn’t 100% correct, he HAS to correct me instead of just “letting it go”…and not saying anything (he promises he’ll get better at “biting his lip”). This isn’t condescending or anything – just annoying. Like if I were to say “Toyota Mustang” he would have to correct me and say, “honey, it’s a FORD – FORD Mustang”…(haha, just came to my mind – car commercial, lol).
But anywhooooo – I guess my thing is – we both have our main issues we want each other to change, habit wise – and it IS hard because this is how we’ve both been for 30 / 36 years. Part of me is like “well, I shouldn’t HAVE to change for anyone!” but at the same time – marriage is about compromise and change…
So I’m really curious – what habits have you had to change / compromise in your relationship/marriage?