Post # 1
hi bees …
has anyone’s FI changed who their groomsmen were after already asking them? my FI had asked two of his college friends to stand up with him … very long story short – his chosen friends have been total asses and i think he’s having a change of heart but doesn’t know what to do. these guys have not gotten measured for their tuxes yet, didn’t honor his wishes for his bachelor party and have been rude to me as well. needless to say i’m not a fan, but this seems like tough stuff. thoughts? advice??
Post # 3
Reading these boards, I’m somewhat relieved to know I’m not the only one getting seriously disappointed by some folks in preparation for my wedding. It’s amazing how people fail to meet even basic expectations (like being polite to your friend’s fiancee?).
Anyways, I would totally vote for changing them. Couldn’t he just tell them straight up that it’s clear they’re not that into it so he’s doing them a favor relieving them of their duties? He can say he’s just making everyone happier – keep the tone light, and hopefully they’ll eventually realize they were in the wrong and offer an apology, even if it takes them a few months to cool off.
Post # 4
DH originally asked his cousin and two of his friends; his friends were totally ready to go with their clothes, travel arrangements, etc. and he hadn’t heard from his cousin in literally months. He actually got to the point where he had to leave his cousin a voicemail telling him he wasn’t in the wedding. Obviously it wasn’t ideal, but what else do you do when someone refuses to answer calls, texts, e-mails, etc. for months at a time?
The cousin ended up calling DH a week before the wedding and apologizing; he blamed it all on his broken phone. Really? Interesting because his Facebook said he was updating from his phone all the time…
Anyways, I would vote that he should try to contact them and just seriously sit down with them and ask them if they want to be a part of this or not. If they don’t answer or aren’t interested, then they’re done. If they’re ready to shape up, then allow them to do so.