(Closed) Change of plans: bridesmaids

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think trying to handle this over email was a really bad idea. Regardless of your ultimate decision, you owe her at least a phone call to discuss. Emailing someone to demote them isn’t the way to treat a friend,

Post # 4
990 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Look my Maid/Matron of Honor was going to be out of town (well she is from Spain) the big day so I had to make adjustments… then we moved the big day earlier and yes she can make it but I wasn’t kicking someone I already had in the wedding out. So here is my advice. IT IS YOUR AND FI’S DAY. She will have her own wedding to plan later and yes it might mean you are not in her wedding but it sounds to me like if she can’t play the part of a bridesmaid she needs to go. You need to be happy not anxious… let it go and let her go.

Post # 5
2705 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Unfortunately, changing your mind and kicking someone out of your bridal party is rude and a friendship ending move.  I’m a bit confused though – why are you kicking her out?  It sounds like you had some difficulty picking out a dress and that she ignored one email, but was there something else?  Are you asking her to help out a lot with the wedding?  Neither of those reasons you listed are good enough to warrent kicking her out.  Unless, of course, you have no interest in being her friend – but that doesn’t sound like the case here.

Post # 6
8362 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@11112hkwedding:  “Also my skin is having some stress-related rash for the past 6 months now and I am finally recognising that I am “stressed out” and really want to eleimiate all areas of stress as much as possible…”

I am sorry you are stressed but everything you have mentioned isn’t something that should be that stressful and warrant kicking someone out of your bridal party. If you are experiencing stress in life particularly around the wedding I really don’t think it is fair to lay all the blame on this friend. Since you said the bolded it kind of makes me think that you have been stressing and she is reacting to that especially since she used the term bridezilla.

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