(Closed) Change of Plans, POST RSVP

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I really don’t think it’s necessarily that big of a deal if your SO calls right now and changes his # attending. The wedding is over three weeks away so that should be plenty of time for them to adjust any catering #s or seating charts.

It’s a reasonable explanation so there is nothing to feel bad about. If you want to do something nice for them, maybe offer to take them out for dinner a month or so after the wedding. I  personally would have loved if one of the people who wasn’t able to make it offered to do that for us since it kind of keeps the celebration going. 😉

Post # 4
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7175 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I think the biggest thing would be to call so she can rearrange seating charts and not include you in the dinner count.

Perhaps you could take the new couple out to dinner to celebrate the marriage and express to them your regret in not being to witness the happy event.  It’s more important that your FI be there.

Post # 5
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6598 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

The fact that your SO is still going is GREAT and I think they will be very thankful to still have one of you coming to the wedding!

Post # 6
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2434 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I think as long as you are apologetic and let them know before they need to submit the final numbers to the caterer, you’re good.

I had a couple of guests have to cancel last minute and the thing that pissed me off the most was that they waited until the last minute and I’d already paid for them!

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