- 3 years ago
- Wedding: January 2000
I have two bridesmaids and neither is the MoH; FI has two groomsmen. That said, one of the bridesmaids is closer to I am (I even officiated her wedding).
We are doing a marriage certificate signing during the ceremony and plan to have one person from each side as a witness. I originally sent an email to both (for the sake of not being hierarchial) asking them who wanted to do the signing and who wanted to hold the bouquet and the friend with whom I’m less close responded first that she wanted to do the signing. My closer friend is laid back and not super sentimental and she was totally fine with it.<br /><br />But now I realised I want my closer friend’s name on my wedding certificate. I am more likely to be close to her when I am old and grey and it’s important to me. <br /><br />Also, my bff is super helpful and already married, whereas the other one has been with her BF for years longer than my FI and I have and is not engaged (but wants to be). When I told her I was proposed to she asked if I was pregnant–a tiny snarky, perhaps unintentionally (she is a sweet girl), but yeah…I guess I just want my bff’s energy and good vibes on the certificate more. <br /><br />How should I explain this to the other BM without making her feel hurt? I was thinking that since my BFF is going to be fixing my train she should be the one standing closer to me during the ceremony and it makes more logistic sense for her to thus do the signing. Is that the gentlest way to do it or should I just be more blunt? <br /><br /><br />