- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Three weeks ago, my SO and I looked at Moissanite rings online since SO doesn’t have a ton of money saved up and I wanted to speed up the process. I picked a style and didn’t mention any regret or uncertainty after we picked it out. I was regretting it a few days after we picked it out and I kept regretting it. My dad offered us the diamond in my grandma’s ring (which is between 2/3-3/4 a carat) when I was under the impression he didn’t want me to rip the ring apart. In the end, I not only preferred a diamond but I wanted THAT diamond.
Well, I didn’t do it well at all. SO was frustrated and mad with me for not bringing it up sooner. He had already purchased a ring and then cancelled it while I sat there. Then, he told me where he was going to propose…at Disneyland under the fireworks (where we’re going on vacation in three weeks). I told him repeatedly that he didn’t need to tell me that and he could’ve kept it to himself. He was frustrated and angry; however, it wouldn’t have been a surprise because my friend got engaged under the fireworks at Disneyland too and it would’ve been in the back of my mind.
That was last week. At the beginning of the week, I was so sad and regretful of how I held it in for so long when it wouldn’t have been a big deal if I would’ve said something earlier. I felt like such a jerk. We will probably go look at settings after the football game today is over. SO has told me he didn’t want to spend three hours there like the last time (we went to look at rings at the beginning of the summer) and then he’s going to let me think it over for a week before he’s going to buy the setting.
I am just so mad at myself and in trying to speed up the process, I actually slowed it down. I know it’s completely my fault. Can anyone relate? My friends have done a great job at helping me see that this scenario will work out even better because I will be getting exactly what I want and I won’t know when the proposal will be coming. Still, I want it to happen sooner than later.