Post # 1
The only person I really care about being in my wedding is my sister;however, I have a couple of more maids and there are now issues.
issue one: Bridesmaid gets engaged after me, but now is getting married before me and has no time and probably no money for my wedding. This happened with two maids.
issue two: Another maid, said, “I can’t believe you are getting married before me!” But then ASKED if she could be in the wedding! “What am I wearing?” Then everything I tell her she has something negative to say. “I do not like your wedding dress, at all!” “I think you are getting married too soon!” “I need to have one of these shows come redo your entire wedding cause this here…”
Issue three: I am on a limited budget. I do not feel comfortable even asking the maids to pay hundreds of dollars for dresses, shoes, hair, etc. One maid expects me to pay for her travel up here, lodging, food while here AND bridesmaid stuff. WTF! She knows I have not worked in a year.
How can I rearrange the bridesmaid line up with out causing too much drama? I know if I give #2 the boot, it will ruin our friendship. Sometimes I do not care because she never has anything nice to say about this marriage.
Post # 3
I was having some issues with my bridesmaids, specifically my maid of honor who i met when i was 2 years old, and thought I was going to have to switch it up which would have been heartbreaking and friendship ruining considering I’ve been friends with all of them since I was a little kid. In order to save that situation, my fiance and I had a conversation with them saying that -we were incredibly happy together and ready to be married depsite our age (23 and 25) and we really needed them to get on board and be supportive of our wedding. As a BM, you have a monetary, but moreso an emotional responsibility to the brides (as long as she’s being reasonable) and I will be there to do the same thing for you when you get married.- after this conversation, everything kind of changed, I don’t think my bridesmaids realized that they were being bridesmaid-zillas until that time. And rather than attack them, I told them how I felt, which I think was incredibly helpful. All of my BMs are fulltime students so I constantly send them little thank you ecards and let them know how gracious I am of their help, which also helps them stay on board (I think, anyways).
So bottom line, tell them how you feel but don’t attack them and if they don’t respond, ask them if they still want to be your BM… I really hope it works out for you!