Post # 1
Here is the problem. My fiancée and I got engaged in dec 2013. We originally wanted to get married oct 2014 but his best man (who lives overseas) could not make it due to prior plans. So we decided early this year that we would get married may 2015 (on the weekend we first got together). Now the best man found out his wife is pregnant and if their estimate is correct will have the baby 2 weeks before the wedding. This is their second child and with them being in europe clearly the baby can’t fly. This is my fiancées best friend and I would hate not having him there but I have been planning and have things booked ( photographer, photo booth, the rest of the wedding party). With the wedding being outside I don’t have a lot of wiggle room and changing the date may only buy the best man a few more weeks……this has me really stressed and my fiancée would be crushed if he didn’t have his best man there…..help,
Post # 2
In the big scheme of things, this is not the end of the world. Perhaps he can spend time with his friend before the wedding for his bachelor party or some other way. You should not alter your wedding date for others. The only pertinent people are you two and the officiant. Not only has the date not worked once, but twice?! Nope… My husbands original best man, his eldest brother, ended up not showing up to the wedding at all. Boy would we have been even more pissed had we changed the date to suit him. How many more years will you push back your wedding for someone else? You need to do what is best for the two of you. Your FI will have to get over it and choose someone else.
Post # 3
I think you got your answer on the other post you made about this a little while ago.
Are you sure you want to get married? You seem to WANT to push your wedding back. Please, take no offense, its just what popped in my head when I saw this second post.
Post # 4
Allisoninaz: IF you decide to move the date for the best man you need to ask him for dates he can definitely do first and pick one of those or you are likely to run in to this problem again.
Post # 5
Allisoninaz: Don’t change the date again, because too much is already committed. Sometimes life plans clash. No one has done anything wrong. He didn’t delay the pregnancy for your wedding (nor should he have), and you shouldn’t delay your wedding for his wife’s pregnancy. There will be many other times for your fiance and his best friend to share together. Also, if other people have spent money (e.g. booking tickets), it’s rude to them to move the wedding.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t change the date- it is impossible to pick a date that works for everyone. We picked the date and one of my very best friends months later got in a really prostegious program that involved her being overseas during my wedding. We would have lost SO much money changing the date, and tons of family and friends are out of town and already bought plane tickets, so changing the date was out of the question. I was definitely disappointed, but I understood. She still was able to come to my bridal shower to at least celebrate with me, and she even sent both my husband and I a video message on the morning of the wedding. I definitely would have prefered having her there, but my wedding day was awesome, and there were so many amazing people there that I didn’t have the chance to miss her.
Post # 7
Nope – don’t change it. There always will be something up, with one of your bridal party members.
Post # 8
Don’t change it again. I could maybe understand changing it once, but come on- you can’t please everyone.
Besides, you could change it and find out that another friend/family memebr is due at that time.
Post # 9
MrsBagel: ohhhh yes!! Can’t wait to start my life with this man!! im just the typical “I want everything to be perfect” bride. Which I’m slowly realizing that it’s impossible to please everyone!! 🙂
Post # 10
I agree – don’t change it again. They still might but be able to travel with all they have going on. It’s just unlucky, but it’s life. Maybe things will align and he can get a last minute flight if it works out. But probably not, and that’s OK. Just plan a visit as soon as you can.
Post # 11
Allisoninaz: you already changed the date once for this guy. and then his wife got pregnant and now you want to change it again?
ABSOLUTELY NOT. He will just have to celebrate with him some other way. This would not fly in my book. I give you credit for being so understanding because I wouldn’t have changed the date the first time. You and your FI are the ones getting married. You already have things booked, why are you going to cause yourself more stress?
Post # 12
Allisoninaz: They didn’t put their life on hold for you, and you shouldn’t for them. I understand he is your FI’s best friend, but he’ll either have to make it or bow out. He should understand ther is already stuff booked.