- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
My brother got married last year and his FI at the time decided she wanted me to be the MOH because her family did not live near her. She wanted someone to be able to go with her to all the appts & etc. So, when she asked me to be the MOH, I told her that I thought I would pick her to because my best friend was a guy and my cousin didn’t live in FL at the time.
Then my cousin ended up moving back. Meanwhile, my cousin & I became best friends again and my relationship with my sister-law seemed to diminish. I talked to her again about the wedding and the price for the dress and she said she had to talk to my brother and would get back to me. I never heard back from her. I felt like she really didn’t seem interested in being in the wedding. And she also said that she didn’t want to walk down the isle with the Best Man and wanted to walk by herself, which is not how we are doing the wedding. The biggest reason of all is that I am not sure that I can trust that she will even be here for the wedding. I started to regret picking her…
Many months before and up to the wedding she said she was going to divorce my brother if things didn’t change. We told her to not marry him then, but she still wanted to have the wedding. She has been acting differently and I am thinking things aren’t going all her way with my brother. BTW for the record, her expectations are not fair and some are quite strange. And she isn’t willing to do anything on her part. I am afraid that she is not happy in the relationship and they could get divorced even before my wedding.
So, because of this and my decision to only have a MOH and Best man to save money. I decided to tell her that I am having my cousin as the MOH, who was a bridesmaid.
Was I wrong to change my mind???