Post # 1
Its been really hard lately. I left my job in June, due to the fact that I was killing myself as a temp (no benefits, no paid time off, etc) despite the fact that I had been working there in the same position for a year and a half, and working at the same level, but 3x harder than the other employees (yeah, they were using me)
Anyways, I got engaged in May, still haven’t found a job, and am getting too caught up in everything. I wanted to have a small wedding at first with friends and family with a 10k budget, but then decided a small wedding with just immediate family made more sense, maybe a 5k budget. But then the more I think about it, the more I want a bigger wedding. sigh. I just can’t do it.
I feel like I should be spending all my time looking for a job, but they days have been passing, and I am online looking at wedding stuff. Maybe I need to think this over..maybe I should just focus on looking for a job and forget the wedding until I am employed. Maybe then I could make a definite decision about budget and size.
Its just so hard to focus on job searching when you just want to plan your wedding already.
So depressing 🙁
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2011 - Trinity Lutheran Church & Idlewild Country Club
I’m with you.
Being unemployed sucks. And spending hours searching for a job but not finding anything gets really really disheartening quickly.
It’s especially hard because you think “oh, if I only had X amout of dollars,I could have the wedding!”. For me, I see all this wedding stuff and I keep telling myself I cannot start buying things for the wedding until I have a job.
We push our wedding date back a whole year thinking that if I got a job (so we’re having a 2.5 yr engagment- lame), I could save for a whole year and we’d be fine. ITd be perfect. But sadly I haven’t gotten a job yet (asisdes from getting hired at Jewel for $8.25 an hour for 20 hrs/w) and I can’t really save money.
I’m trying to find a balance between reading wedding books and stuff and keeping my chin up while looking for a job, but it’s seriously tough.
Post # 4
I hope that we both get hired soon, ColorCoated…it really is tough
Sometimes I get so down about myself. I try to think positive, but its not long before I feel sad again. Part of the problem is that I don’t know what I would be happy doing. I feel like I am such a intelligent person, but my personality (I’m sure I have some form of social anxiety) really holds me back from reaching out and trying new things. I just want to be happy, but I’m just miserable and feel sorry for myself most days.
Post # 5
You should just focus on finding a job first and maybe doing wedding planning or research on the weekends! Without the job, how else will you afford any wedding right? So I think that maybe the job you get will determine the wedding you will have. You don’t want to spend beyond your means!
Post # 6
@ jingle96: yes, I know that’s the smart thing to do. I think I will have to just focus on the job search for now. Its just so hard…I’ve been with my fiance for 7 years, and got engaged in May. I want to get married already!
Post # 7
Good luck with the job search. I left me job right after getting engaged and figured we’d set the date and plan after I got a job. Once I got the job, it was too much to plan and I had a project I commited to that basically made planning a wedding impossible. We puched our wedding back to this summer and that gave me a good eight months to plan/save money. We were engaged for about 20 months. It sucks, but I think waiting until you find a job and get into that will be the best time for you. You’re other alternative could be to go ahead and have the intimate wedding now and then plan a renewal/big reception for like five years from now.
Post # 8
Oh how I understand. Unemployed since June as well, as a matter of fact I was in the middle of getting dressed to go apply to some 50 other places. 🙁
Pretty much all my life long dreams for my wedding aren’t happening. I have a beautiful dress and the ceremony will be in an awesome church we go to, and we have a good honeymoon booked the day after, but that’s about it. Everything else just keeps failing and I’m starting to not even care anymore. Very sad. Plus all the financial stress of him in school and working full time at a stressful job and us trying to make a wedding and a honeymoon happen for $3,000…it’s really driving a stake in our relationship.
So I totally understand, I’ve gotten so depressed over no one hiring me that I just sit here on Weddingbee all day.
But not today…which is why I must end this post and get a move on.
Hugs to my fellow unemployed!
Post # 9
good luck to you. hope you get lucky today!
Post # 10
I know its hard, but lets stay focused! My BFF and I got engaged in May too! She’s been with her Fi 13 yrs…OMG right!? She has the same thoughts as you and just wanted to get it done, so she’s getting married in Feb 2010. But I think you’ll be more stressed out without a job and wedding planning together…and who wants to be more stressed!?
Post # 11
Are there any other temp agencies that you can look at in your area that may havce open positions? You may not have steady work in one location, but it may serve to pay the bills. The only reason I know is because I work in Human Resources and talk to a lot of the temp agencies on a consistent basis.
Post # 12
Luli…I think you’re good luck.
I posted that post, got up and left and went to Kelly Services, which is a very popular staffing place and I kid you not! I walked out with a job and I start on Tuesday.
I’m through the roof! There’s no gaurantee this will be permanent or even more then 6 months but it will get me through the holidays and pay 3 really big bills coming up soon. OH And I will finally get the clerical experience I need!
Seriously, don’t give up! I can now whole heartedly agree with hhcheung about trying staffing agencies. And go to more then one because I applied with Randstad a couple months ago and only got one interview. Today I walked into Kelly’s, no appointment, just wanted to give them my resume and I walked out with a job.
A fellow bee messaged me awhile back and told me about indeed.com it’s basically a job google. It pulls from every job website and it’s awesome.
Just keep at it! You can’t plan a wedding when you’re depressed and stressed out because you don’t have a job. Apply to everything you think you could do. (Oh and go see them in person 🙂 )
I’m not sure if you or any other unemployed brides out there are religious but if you are…I’ll be honest, the only thing that has kept me from falling apart this week has been Proverbs 3:5-6. Because this week has been rough and I just kept having to rely on my microscopic speck of hope that everything would work out.
Whew. Off the soap box. 🙂 🙂 (Weddingbee is why I had a result of 50 words per minute on my typing test today lol!!)