- Miss Leopard
- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
This is a long story but I’ll make it short. FI and I have been together 2 years. He was just out of a marriage and once his ex-wife found out he was dating she has been extremely vindictive. The divorce has now gone on for over 2 years and counting. We started looking at venues a year ago, never imagining that we would still be in court. We have agreed to all her demands, but trying to plan a wedding not knowing for sure that he will be divorced in time has put the weight of the world on my shoulders. The decree is now signed but we are waiting to set a court date to present papers.
This morning we called our venue to push back our July 5th date to October 25th. It is so bittersweet. I have dreamed about that July wedding for almost a year, and to know that it won’t happen now makes me sad. However, feeling like I can breathe again and have a few more months of reprieve to make sure the divorce goes through is amazing.
Since we got “engaged”, I haven’t been able to tell his family (they are still choosing sides over the divorce, although they like me), wear my ring, have any showers, or plan bachelor/bachelorette parties. It will be a relief to do these things with joy in my heart instead of under the strain of a court date. We are 100% confident that the divorce will go through by the end of April.
When I changed the date this morning, I cried a little and then I got over myself. I get to have an amazing wedding to an incredible man on my own terms. I am lucky to have him and such a supportive family to carry me through this. Life is sometimes messy, but love is all that matters in the end.