Changing dresses twice – would it be a real pain?

posted 2 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

Changing a dress just for one song seems like a big hassle to me. However, it’s your wedding and if you want to be comfortable for your first dance go ahead and change. How long did it take you to get into the dress for this picture? 30 minutes seems like an extroidinarily long time to get into a dress

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I had two dresses and changed once between the ceremony and reception. I don’t regret it since I never could have been comfortable dancing in my huge-trained mermaid lacy gown, but I definitely would not have wanted to change more than that. It’s a gigantic hassle to haul out to your hotel room, get unzipped/buttoned, run for the bathroom, get into your new dress, change accessories, touch up, then rush back and yes, you will likely lose half an hour each time. Mine took almost an hour because my bridesmaids wanted to go pick something up from their hotel room, I wanted to redo my hair, I forgot to bring my purse so had to go back, my photographer disappeared and I didn’t know where they were, blah blah blah. It just takes so much longer than you think it will.

It’s hugely frustrating on an already rushed wedding day to take the time to change. I would strongly recommend you don’t do it more than once.

Edit: Just noticed that you might be planning on changing in the reception bathroom rather than in your room. I reaaally can’t see a dirty public bathroom working well for an expensive white wedding dress, and even if you do change there without incident, exactly where are you thinking of safely storing the dress/accessories while you dance? I doubt the cubicles are going to be big enough to change in if you need BM help, so you’ll also have to be half-naked while guests are coming in and out. Sounds like an experience worth avoiding to me.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Sheile:  Depends on the person but I think it is worth asking your BMs to practice tying the corset before the day. When my sister got married we had to retie it two or three times before it looked right. And yes, if you get them to do it after everyone has been drinking all evening it is going to be a lot harder, haha.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Let me just say, your dress is amazing. Exactly what I’m looking for. I also think changing twice might be a bit much, but that’s just me!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Tying a corset is quite simple – one of the girls should be able to properly get you in/out of the dress in minutes.  It’s the going back and forth to the hotel that I agree could be a pain.  Does your venue not have an office you could change in?  It would be much cleaner and you wouldn’t need to go back and forth (or risk flashing your guests).

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I changed my dress once, and it was a pain in the butt – and I didn’t have a corset.  

Can you move your ‘first dance’ song back so its not a first dance, but a mid-to-end of the reception dance?  Maybe after you cut the cake?  That’s what DH and I did after the wedding.  I stayed in my gown for most of the reception, then after we cut the cake, with about 2 hours left in the reception, I changed into my party dress that was easier to dance in.  We then had a swing dance song right after I came out in my short dress to start the dancing / party.  It worked great!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I think you should be fine. In a lot of asian weddings, the bride changes into 3+ different dresses, so it definitely can be done. 

Just have your bridesmaids practice tying the corset before the wedding. It’s not something that’s very difficult. It just takes a little practice to get the timing down.

I personally would just change the dress at the venue. Call the coordinator there to see if there’s an empty office or room that you can use for the night to store your dress and do the dress change. You’ll lose a lot of time if you have to travel back and forth from your hotel.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Sheile:  My hotel was also next door, but yeah, it still took a long time and I was already chafing to see my guests since wedding portraits took longer than expected. If you do decide to get changed twice, bear in mind that is 40-80 minutes you won’t be able to spend enjoying the lovely dinner, dancing and drinks you just paid thousands of dollars for. A wedding dress is unfortunately very difficult to move quickly in (part of it is the fact that you are trying to avoid stepping on/dirtying it, part of it is the crazy shoes you usually haven’t worn in yet, and part of it is the fact that you are the star of the show and everyone wants to stop you to talk to/gush at you). Whatever time it takes you to change and move from one place to another in normal circumstances, double it in a wedding dress. 

You may also need/want to change undergarments, shoes and accessories, which will put it on the longer end of that estimate. By all means do it if you really want to, but make sure you build realistic changing times into the schedule or you will just end up very stressed out.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

dojx:  Asian brides also spread out their festivities over the whole day (or several days). Commonly there is a pre-wedding shoot with one or more wedding dresses a few weeks before the wedding, a tea ceremony dress in the early morning on the day of the wedding, then a Western-style white wedding dress for games and the ceremony in the afternoon/evening (sometimes they change again between the ceremony/reception, but less often). Also, because they have the pre-wedding shoot for couples portraits there is a lot less focus on getting posed photos and they can get away with not spending ages with the photographer on the day of the wedding.

Unless the OP is planning on getting up at 5am and/or shooting her wedding portraits on another day then it’s a different kind of situation. Asian brides have a bit more time to play with!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Penang1885:  Yes, that is true. However, I have seen asian brides changing into 3 separate dresses during the reception on multiple occasions. It is a very common thing to do in my area.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I took off my whole dress everytime I had to use the washroom- I just used the handicap stall, got a bridesmaid to unzip me, and jumped out of the dress. but my dress kind of stood up on its own (hayley paige “Keaton”) so only the bottom of it touched the bathroom floor. And obviously a zipper is so much easier than a corset. 

my point is, the bathroom might not be so bad if it’s clean enough and there is a big stall. 

edit: but one thing I would say is I constantly never felt like I had enough time during the day and night and I would not want to lose time changing. 

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